find my app sending wrong notifications

I have a work phone and a personal phone, as well as AirPods Max for my work phone/macbook and AirPods 2 for my personal stuff. On days when I leave my house and go to the office, if I bring my AirPods Max, I'll get this notification on my work phone about them following me. I also get it on my...

Anyone else notice that Find My - on some/most devices - is very delayed? Example - from my Mac, half of my devices show last seen between 5 minutes ago and hours ago, even though they're online, right next to me. This has been occurring for at least the past month.

Does anyone experience getting multiple, “time sensitive,” notifications from the find my app that say they have been sent by your friend who has notifications set to allow you to know when they leave a specific location? The service can be pretty spotty where my friend lives, and I get...