This sort of falls into hardware and software, but I wanted to know why you can't keep writing sessions to a DVD-R. In Toast your only option is to Write Disk, you can not Write Session. It would be nice to keep adding to it till it is full.
I had inquired about this very thing months ago at macosxhints and there was one explanation as to why it could not be done. From what I recall, it has something to do with DVD-R vs. DVD+R. If you manage to figure it out a solution please let me know; it would be ideal for weekly backups.
If you're writing short sessions, you might want to just use CD-R's. Remember anytime you go to add a session, you stand a chance of messing up the disk.
Although I do understand the space savings of fewer DVD's, I also understand the reality of adding data to an existing piece of optical media as well. And for some things you may just not want to take that risk. Like backups. (Unless you alternate the media so you're not adding to your most recent backup.)