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No.
Deleting messages from one device doesn't delete it on every other device that uses the same Apple ID and Messages contact info. At some point though, a deleted message on one device won't suddenly pop up on another device if it's been inactive for a period of time
 
What if I set the option of text messages and iMessages to only be saved for 1 year or 30 days ? Instead of forever.
 
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