Thank you, especially for the tip about disabling reminders in Today View! Yes I have used the twitter app, that was the first thing I tried. I'm getting some of my notifications but not all of them. I seem to be getting more and more lately, so maybe the issue is resolving itself.
Reposting my stupid questions in case anyone else has any other ideas:
-in the notifications menu, is there a way to disable checking off reminders? I use reminders to keep track of my bills, and accidentally marking them as complete could be very bad.
-is there a way to select which calendars appear in the notifications menu?
-is there a way to get the notification menu to show upcoming calendar appointments in point form? I'm not loving the 6 hour calendar view. I'm also not loving that it will tell me I have am event tomorrow at a specific time, but not what the event is.
The answer to all three questions is no. That's the only way the reminders can be shown in notification center. It will show all active calendars, you can not choose specific ones to be displayed here. And no; no way to get upcoming events shown in point form.