@Scepticalscribe has spoken extensively about watching her parents decline in old age and pass away. It is a sad part of existence as a human being. If I can find a link to that thread, I’ll post it.
I, 66 years old, and my two brothers are currently facing this with our Father. He is 91, independently living alone and last weekend, one of my brothers and I flew into Florida to visit and discuss his next move, into a senior or an assisted living facility. He has indicated, it is time for such a move. He lives near Winterhaven, Florida. We flew into Tampa, 50 miles away.
On Monday while sitting at the airport to go home, I got a call from my brother that Dad is having another episode where he can’t catch his breath and was going to the hospital. Of note, this was the first we had heard of it, that weekend. I called him and told him not to drive, but to call 911 which he did. I rented a car and drove back from the airport and spent another 3 days there.
He is back home, having being diagnosed with either emphysema or COPD, with meds and an O2 bottle. I initially suspected it could be heart related, but his heart is good. So the emphasis is now getting him into a senior center or assisted living. What makes this difficult was his decision to move 1000 miles away 20 years ago.
I got home last night, and suspect I’ll be going back in the near future, and that this is just the beginning of the end. My Grandmother on his side lived to 96, and a Great Uncle to 102. All is well though, this is just part of being alive.
What have your experiences been good and bad addressing this situation, an elderly parent’s living arrangements? What to look out for or avoid?
Our Mother spent her final days living with our middle brother. Fortunately our Father has enough money in the bank to afford a senior home, and none of the sons really wants to take him in because he can be a real pill at times. I also think that living in a facility, if you can afford it, has social advantages, being with a group of people at your stage of life.
We are looking at a place called Presbyterian Homes of Florida which charge $34-80k up front for a studio apartment or a two bedroom apartment, and $1670 a month for routine services, vs an assisted living facility that charges $2600 a month, but that is hearsay from my Father. I’m in the process of gathering information.
I, 66 years old, and my two brothers are currently facing this with our Father. He is 91, independently living alone and last weekend, one of my brothers and I flew into Florida to visit and discuss his next move, into a senior or an assisted living facility. He has indicated, it is time for such a move. He lives near Winterhaven, Florida. We flew into Tampa, 50 miles away.
On Monday while sitting at the airport to go home, I got a call from my brother that Dad is having another episode where he can’t catch his breath and was going to the hospital. Of note, this was the first we had heard of it, that weekend. I called him and told him not to drive, but to call 911 which he did. I rented a car and drove back from the airport and spent another 3 days there.
He is back home, having being diagnosed with either emphysema or COPD, with meds and an O2 bottle. I initially suspected it could be heart related, but his heart is good. So the emphasis is now getting him into a senior center or assisted living. What makes this difficult was his decision to move 1000 miles away 20 years ago.
I got home last night, and suspect I’ll be going back in the near future, and that this is just the beginning of the end. My Grandmother on his side lived to 96, and a Great Uncle to 102. All is well though, this is just part of being alive.
What have your experiences been good and bad addressing this situation, an elderly parent’s living arrangements? What to look out for or avoid?
Our Mother spent her final days living with our middle brother. Fortunately our Father has enough money in the bank to afford a senior home, and none of the sons really wants to take him in because he can be a real pill at times. I also think that living in a facility, if you can afford it, has social advantages, being with a group of people at your stage of life.
We are looking at a place called Presbyterian Homes of Florida which charge $34-80k up front for a studio apartment or a two bedroom apartment, and $1670 a month for routine services, vs an assisted living facility that charges $2600 a month, but that is hearsay from my Father. I’m in the process of gathering information.