The itunes Info tab says that my iphone is set to sync with mobile me and HAS NOT OPTIONS. Well if that is the case, why does my me.com, iphone, ical on my Mac Mini, and Outlook on my Vista laptop not have anything other than what is added on the respective devices???
Eh? What? On the PC, MobileMe sync'ing is
not done using iTunes. You do
not use iTunes to sync with MobileMe, although you do initially
install the MobileMe applet at the same time as iTunes. You do not use iTunes to sync MobileMe and the PC, or MobileMe and the iPhone. However, if you do want to sync with MobileMe, you do have to tell iTunes about that, so that iTunes will not conflict with MobileMe.
On the PC, sync'ing is controlled by the MobileMe applet in the Control Panel. Open up the Control Panel, and double-click on the MobileMe applet (you did allow iTunes to install it, right?). Once open, you'll see your MobileMe account status (and, if you do not, you didn't enter your MobileMe account info -- use the buttons there to configure it). You can control the sync settings via the sync tab. Note that this controls
only the sync'ing between MobileMe and the PC -- it does
not control sync'ing between MobileMe and the iPhone. Also, note that sync'ing is not instantaneous; there can be a delay of 15 min or more, depending on the settings that you use (you can always force a manual sync, though).
On the iPhone, you've got to enter your MobileMe account info. Go to Settings->Mail,Contacts,Calendar->YourName@me.com->Account Info. Make sure that your address and password are correct (your address is of the form, "YourName@me.com", without the quotes). Note that this controls
only the sync'ing between MobileMe and the iPhone -- it does
not control sync'ing between MobileMe and the PC.