So far meteor lake is looking to have a slight drop in IPC from raptor lake.
While I agree with much of what you wrote about Meteor Lake, Meteor Lake is only used for Intel's mobile chips (and only the non-HX models.) 14th gen desktop (14700K, 14900K, etc) is just a refresh of Raptor Lake. A slight frequency boost is all you're going to get, so performance is basically equivalent to 13th gen.
We won't be seeing anything new for desktop until Arrow Lake, which will
maybe launch at the end of this year? And it'll be on Intel 20A, not Intel 4. And not only will 20A be a new node, it'll be using a new type of transistor
and a new power delivery mechanism - so yeah, lots of opportunities for things to go wrong. I'd probably skip that one if it were me.
To answer OPs question, it's going to depend on what you use it for. A lot of 13th/14th gen chips have way more e-cores than their 12th gen counterparts, and so can perform much better in highly-threaded workloads. If what you do doesn't scale well with e-cores, you're not going to see much difference. Top-end 13th/14th gen chips also put out a ton of heat, and with the 13900K/14900K in particular you're going to need a very powerful cooler to get the most out of it. I like to stay on air cooling which is why I went with a 7950X for my build.