my wife's grandmother went to apple with the death certificate and they are claiming she needs a court order. I find that excessive.
I know this is different in every country but when a person dies usually someone is assigned to handle all their affairs. In many countries this person or persons is called the 'Executor of the estate' OR 'Executor of the Will'. This person(s) is given the legal status of handling the deceased persons affairs like dealing with their bank accounts, any loans, mortgages, credit cards. This is done by the deceased person making a will and assigning someone who they would like to handle things when they are gone, most importantly the funeral.
Things become complicated if no will is made or the country does not have such a process. If that is the case it will then be the next of kin who takes control of the deceased persons affairs BUT there is no legal standing here, it just a rights of passage kind of thing. This process can get messy because if the next of kin needs to get things closed down such as bank accounts, loans, credit cards and such forth, due to them not having the legal power of attorney over their deceased relative (Executor of the estate, Executor of the Will is given that power via the Will) banks and others can request that you get a court order.
I do believe in many countries a person can contact a government department to request that they be given Executor status over their deceased relative and that it can take a number of weeks before that person receives a letter telling them they have the legal power to handle the deceased persons affair.
In your case Apple should only require a court order if there is no Executor of the estate/will or no power of attorney. Does your family have such a person that has been assigned such a position? This position would have to have been agreed by a government department with a letter being sent to the person telling them they have been given the legal power to handle the deceased person's affairs.
Remember, being next of kin does not given that person the legal power to handle the deceased persons affairs which is why banks and companies will request a court order because the court order is basically giving the person the legal power to handle the deceased persons affairs.
BUT if your in a country that does have Executors of the estate/will, then that person would be the one responsible in contacting Apple. That person would have to have a copy of the letter that proves they have been given the legal power to handle the deceased persons affairs as well as all the other paperwork (ID's and purchase receipt).
Remember, like I said in my other post, Apple will be the way they are being because it is their job to protect the privacy and security of the owner of the iphone and due to criminals trying to use every trick in the book to get stolen iphones unlocked, Apple have to follow a very strict process of getting an iphone unlocked because if an iphone was stolen and Apple unlocked it and the criminal then used the contents of the iphone to engage in other criminal activity, Apple could get sued by the original owners of the stolen iphone for making it too easy to unlock.
Don't blame Apple here, they are just protecting their backs making sure they do everything legal.