Lol.
I’ve seen enough to see through the bs.
I’m all for respecting privacy. But I don’t believe in the fear to instill values that seems to rule today’s generation.
Everyone preaches against monitoring the children and checking up on them and looking at their devices.
Then when the kids get into trouble, the same people say the parents should have been more active.
I’m watching it play out right now with a kid I know who’s now gotten himself into such a mess that no detention center in the state will take him because he’s too much of a handful.
And yet the powers that be tied his parents hands and gave him the freedom to become what he is.
Now he’s a drain on the juvenile justice system who is trying to find a place for him because the juvenile detention center can’t handle him.
Teach kids that they can walk all over you, and they will.
Teach kids that they have freedom and entitlement, and they’ll take it.
Try to rein them in later?? Forget it.
They’re now destined for a future of self destruction. They’ve got a life of prison ahead, unless they get themselves killed first.
I’m this kids situation, even the detention centers can’t handle him. So he’s out of options. But he still thinks he’s entitled. So down he’ll go.
With me, he’s “yes, sir”... but unfortunately I can’t take him in. I could if it were only me in consideration. But I have to consider other factors.
But he responds to me, because I present as an unmovable force. There is one way. My way.
But, even in detention, their hands are tied by rules that give him power. Which he uses to his full benefit. And they’re afraid of him.
But, I come from a rougher generation and I grew up facing down guns. There isn’t a threat he can make that I’ll back down from. Unlike others, that are afraid he’ll kill them.
Unfortunately today’s generation is basically spineless and afraid to do anything for fear of being reported. But in this child’s case, the justice system wouldn’t dare step in, because right now they will do anything to get him out of their custody. But... he is a product that they made by tying the hands of his parents.
If I lived alone 100% of the time, I’d take him in. But I don’t. And that’s where the danger is. I have to consider the safety of others. My own safety I’d sacrifice for the chance to turn him back around. But I won’t sacrifice someone else’s safety for him.
I’ve seen enough, I’ve watched the rules change, and I’ve seen the results.
This kid is not a minority. Kids like him are becoming the norm.
Some rebellion is normal. But, there still needs to be an accounting.
I have taught my own children defiance. But, I also taught them that there is a time and place. It’s not about just getting your way. It’s questioning authority when authorities are wrong. And I will back them 100% when they are defiant for the right reasons. But they know I will stomp down hard when it’s not on moral ground.
There’s a balance to teach. Respect authority. But do not fear it. Be strong enough to take on authority when the authority is wrong. And I’ve shown them that first hand. I’ve risked my freedom several times for their benefit. They’re healthy and alive today because I was willing to face life in prison to rise against authority on my own with no backing, and I fought for them, and did whatever it took to protect them.
I teach them to never bow down. But I also teach them absolute respect. Respect authority. But question authority. And rise when it’s called for. But never disrespect solely because you feel entitled to do whatever you want. That absolutely won’t fly.