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Mastering Art Of Apology

Ha! I rarely forgive and forget unless it's a close family member (ex. mother, sister, grandfather, etc.). Once someone pisses me off, thats it, it's hard for me to want to do anything around them or be around them. And first impressions mean a lot to me.



I am a hard person to know and understand.
 
musicpyrite said:
Ha! I rarely forgive and forget unless it's a close family member (ex. mother, sister, grandfather, etc.). Once someone pisses me off, thats it, it's hard for me to want to do anything around them or be around them. And first impressions mean a lot to me.



I am a hard person to know and understand.
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That is kind of sad. You sound like you might be the shy type, introverted. I'm introverted, but the compassionate empathetic type.
 
i hold a grudge really easily and for a really long time, but i tend to forgive and forget if i think about it and realize i was wrong. now if the other person was wrong...
 
I don't hold grudges....I get even :p Sorry , someone had to say that. I don't hold grudges and will admit to mistakes. Life's too short to worry about small crap. If it doesn't get any better after an apology, I just move on...

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I can believe that forgiveness is good for you. Just today I finally forgave my girlfriend for something she did several weeks ago, and right now at least I'm feeling considerably better than I have in quite a while...
 
Mr. Anderson said:
I don't hold grudges....I get even :p Sorry , someone had to say that. I don't hold grudges and will admit to mistakes. Life's too short to worry about small crap. If it doesn't get any better after an apology, I just move on...

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At least you aplogized for it :p I tend to forgive and forget myself. Or at least try to.
 
I have a real problem with forgiving people...As in, I do it too much and too easily. I can't stay mad at a person for very long, in most instances. I guess it's good in the sense that I move on, but I feel that I really ought to be more firm more of the time and to really cut people off in instances where they have crossed a certain line.
 
There is a difference between being strong enough not to let yourself be walked on like a doormat, and carrying around useless negative feeling that doesn't do anything to the person it's aimed at.

Also, forgiveness doesn't mean that what the person did is all right, nor that you can trust them not to do it again. You can only trust a person to be what they are; not what you thought they were, or want them to be. Forgiveness isn't excusing their behavior, it's letting go of your own anger towards it.
 
Roger1 said:
At least you apologized for it :p I tend to forgive and forget myself. Or at least try to.
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Forgiveness is the easy part in the apology. What's really difficult is to forget, which is the most important. The party that did wrong must be sincere in the apology, explain what was done, and promises not to do it again. If all that is met we should forgive, forget, and move on. As others have said life is too short to hold a grudge. Jesus Christ talked about forgiveness many times, "your father has forgiven you, and so you should forgive.
 
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