Curious as to this answer as well. I've heard about unplugging the monitor for a while, then rebooting your Mac. That never seemed to work for mine.
I was also stuck on 3.3.23. Then a couple of days ago, my M1 Mac mini crashed(!) while doing nothing "Your computer restarted because of a problem".
Upon reboot, I got the notification for a ProDisplay XDR firmware upgrade, which brought me to 4.2.37.
I'm on macOS 11.1 public release.