Boy transfering about 5000 songs takes forever.

About an hour. and I shrunk it down to about 21gigs of songs. Seems much longer than it should for up to 400mbps. But I guess that's like watching a pot boil.
Oh, about updating the software. Looks straight forward but boy is apple ass backwards with it. Two choices update or restore. You would figure going from 1.1 to 1.2 of software is an UPDATE, but its not. You can't choose update. But if you choose restore it updates it to 1.2. Good thing I didn't do my song transfer till I did the update.
And is it just me or does plugging in this ipod into the computer to use as a harddrive takes a long time to be found? I think I must've done the unplug/replug like 3 times and each time it takes at least 25-35seconds for the computer to find it. My portable harddrive (one of those that require no power and plugs into a 2.0 usb port) is found and usable in about 5-10sec. Does it look for itunes or something?
Oh one last question for now, when itunes first synced it named my ipod "startreak's ipod". Now I noticed it labeled my ipod "starstreak'" in windows. If I change the name in windows, will it screwup my itunes and I have to resync everything again?
Lastly, there has got to be an easier way of using itunes. Ok, I'm new to this. I told it to look in my music folder. When it got done, I used that feature that copies my mp3 to an ipod folder thinking this would help alot and I had dups in the playlist. This is a playlist I'm looking at in itunes right? Not a listing of all my music? So the only way to remove the dups is go and delete every dup one by one. Needless to say, 1 hour to weed the dups was not fun. And since all of this was copied to my ipod folder, it removed about 4 gigs of dups. PLEASE tell me there was an easier way to clean the playlist.