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Funny we even talked about the different zones: intimate, family, friends, acquaintances, & strangers. I was at the edge of the intimate/family zone before we talked. I'm now at the family/friends zones. I hate myself for that now.
It's funny that you talked about it, because you're in the friend zone.
And there's no "Family zone" between friendship and dating. No idea what that even means. You're just the friend. You're not more than that.
Banging her etc, wouldn't work because.....
.....I actually never lusted after her. Though I had seen her naked before I looked away.
She thinks you're gay, asexual, or perhaps just not that attracted to her. And what does her boyfriend think about this --- sleeping in the same bed, and changing in front of you? Even if he's not the jealous type, I think it would still be rather odd.
Perhaps the best thing for you to do is to put your penis into your box of condoms. It's not like you'll need either of those things for awhile.
Call me stupid or call me a gentleman. Yes, we we're that close that she felt comfortable being naked around me. We even slept together in the same bed(clothed). I never took it to a physical level because I wanted to show that I didn't see her as a sex object. Now don't get me wrong, she is a VERY beautiful young woman, but my reasons for wanting her were more than just her body.
It's funny that guys try to "be a gentleman" by looking away when she took off her clothes, and all this to show her that you don't want her only for her body. Looking away is good, but if you had checked her out for a
half-second longer, just long enough for her to notice that you did give her a quick look up and down, you would have been better off.
It also wouldn't have meant that you
only like her for her body. Showing interest in her looks doesn't make you an ill-suited boyfriend. I don't know anybody who would make that conclusion except really naive men, because lets face it, she doesn't share the same opinion. If she did, she wouldn't have stripped in front of you.
You didn't look at her naked. In fact, you quickly looked away!! And that makes you good boyfriend material?
Way to make a girl feel attractive. You don't think she'd rather go out with someone who finds
her irresistibly attractive?
Girls, like guys, feel good when they know that someone finds them cute, sexy, beautiful, etc.
I told her this, & she was thankful that I mentioned it to her because that thought had crossed her mind that I had developed feelings from when she was nude in front of me.
"Thank you, my eunuch friend."
We have talked about this & we are going to remain close. Though I know some trust has been lost, we are not as close anymore(sleeping in the same bed or being naked), & I know she will be wondering if I am saying or doing something that has a deeper meaning behind it.
So you want to date her, but you don't want to say anything that would give her the impression that you really really, desperately want her, nor are you willing to
do anything that would make her know that you find her attractive.
Were you waiting for your yellow Chevy Camaro to transform into a robot, and for this girl to somehow, mysteriously, fall in love with you just for existing?
In fact I told her that I won't be seeing her till Thanksgiving because I want to move beyond this. We will call, text, facebook, email, snail mail etc... but no "being there". She has agreed to help me. Yeah it's strange but I see it as building back what I have destroyed & maybe becoming better, closer friends because of it. It will take awhile(her words) to move beyond it but I am hopeful that we can remain close. Even if that is a false hope that is the only thing I have left to look forward too. As I have said before I have lost all my other close friends. I can't lose another.
