Yes they are big but not as big as the OS itself. Like I said, clean installing the OS even takes less time.Because they are big updates (3 GB), and probably Apple added some additional validations to validate the updates.
APFS filesystem snapshots should be practically free. I doubt that's the reason for slow updates.Filesystem snapshots are not free though, which means more safety = slower update.
Making a snapshot is pretty cheap, but writing to a snapshotted volume and integrating changes can be a lot more expensive.APFS filesystem snapshots should be practically free. I doubt that's the reason for slow updates.