Maybe I worded it weirdly because I wrote that a bit fast and I’m not a native English speaker, but that was two days ago and I don’t remember what I was doing while typing.But it's the way you phrased it... "forces me to activate it." As if you have no control on whether or not its shown. And I'm confused... would you rather have the pillarbox style external monitor experience mirrored to the iPad?
What I wanted to say is that, indeed, I don’t enjoy using it, I don’t like it, and unless Apple forces me to enable it when using an external display, for me is like it doesn’t exist. Just saying it to support/answer the OP questions regarding the topic.
As for how a system like iPadOS could implement a better multitask on an external monitor, honestly, it’s not me who has to provide a solution for this problem. A multi-billion company like Apple has. I’m just saying that at the current stage of the feature, I prefer not to use Stage Manager on a Mac or iPad, I much prefer the Mission Control / Exposé feature that macs have had for more than 10 years now.
We’ll see how Stage Manager evolves in future iterations.
And by the way, I’m glad you or other people enjoy using the feature, but it is not the case for me.