I am not sure if what you are experiencing is not a bug of some sort.
Since I still have my M1 Air on Monterey, maybe thats my thing that I am not seeing increased RAM usage. Right now I am streaming a movie on my TV off MacBook, it says 4.85Gb RAM used out of 16.
The thing is, Mac is using RAM slightly different than Windows or even its distant relative Linux. Have you ever had RAM-related freezes or slowdowns on your ARM MacBook? If not and it is just showing high RAM usage then it is all okay.
While Microsoft officially says you can live on 4GB RAM, it is impossible in real life scenarios. And even 8GB nowadays feels very constrained on Windows machines, given that it is a modern Windows 11 or 10. Older stuff can live on 1 or 2 GB, but browsing won’t feel the same.
You see no problem that Apple is actually spying on me, by checking the media I have on my computer and is consuming an insane amounts of RAM with this background process?
Even if they are spying, everyone does. Just deal with it, don’t store too much personal info on your laptop, do not overshare specific info. I doubt Apple actually spies because they don’t have working ad business to put all that data at real work.
I still think you got some sort of a bug. Maybe some particular application is causing this behavior since 3rd party apps can use and trigger Apple processes as well. Also it might be “good old” Spotlight indexing. If you don’t rely on it, kill it and then exclude your Macintosh HD from indexing, then see how it goes.
Also uninstalling Chrome smh helps fix Mac RAM issues. I don’t know what it does, but it seems like Chrome is slowing down Macs. I personally use Firefox, jumped on it ever since I saw how sluggish Chrome can get.
If nothing helps I advise you to try and update your Mac. If you have latest version, maybe consider clean reinstall. It is not complicated and system will do everything for you.
Should have bought an M1 MacBook Air by the sounds of things.
I mean, it is a good laptop, honestly! I doubt I would have ever found a Windows laptop for the same price that does all that I need as fast as this little machine. Not sure I would need an upgrade anytime soon, it does all I need