Actually the 6s benchmarks significantly lower than the 8 or X. See here: iPhone 6s, iPhone 8, iPhone X. You're right though, it's something Apple has done - they've optimised the software for their latest devices instead of focusing on devices that are 3 generations old. And why would they? They're not making any money off people who hold onto their old devices. That's not a conspiracy, just common business practice. However, a nice side-effect is that it also makes for more stable software, which has long been a solid argument in the iOS vs Android debate.
Anyway, Apple don't force you to update iOS, so the choice is in your hands. Never update, miss out on new features, but keep the same performance as the day you bought it, or update and get new features but lose some performance. You can't expect the same performance out of an OS that's designed for devices almost twice as powerful as yours.
Problem is they are still selling the 6S and SE though even though they know damn well they will run like crap on this firmware. So you have to ask yourself whats worse. Android where you get few updates or Apple who will release updates and turn your phone to crap when they deem it to old?