But you're assuming that there's not a fix for his current body, such as (a) shooting at the hyperfocal distance, which will make him a better photographer, (b) shooting with IR assist which will be significantly cheaper, or (c) shooting with more light, which will get him better pictures. The easy answer isn't always the best answer, and throwing equipment at the problem hardly helps someone grow as a photographer- in this case what happens if the movement is head-on to the camera and the venues get even darker?
True, even using a flash would help a lot. He does rely on "ambient" lighting, although I think an SB-400 (or SB-600) flash will be fantastic and a better purchase than a 70-200 mm lens, which won't help his lens focusing issues at all.
I don't disagree with you, but I think spending money on the lens was a bad idea. I would have gone for the camera + a flash first, and THEN the lens. A better AF system would result in less focus hunting, although we've never really seen him shoot a wedding, so who knows what method he uses to get a focused shot when his lens hunts.
While I don't totally buy into the predicate, the obvious answer there is to increase your skill level until it's all marginal difference. I know lots of photographers who could handily "keep up" with a '70's camera- because they understand photography and they're not letting the camera compensate for their lack of skillset.
Maybe an old camera can keep up with a new camera in the hands of the right person, but even then, the new camera may simply be non-limiting. Otherwise, you wouldn't have bought an expensive Nikon D2x, right? It didn't improve your photography skills, but it will complement your ability. Like I said, I think we can all survive on Nikon D50s, but would you want to?
While I don't shoot birds, for bird-in-flight "panning" shots, I wouldn't want to go all manual. I guess you
could. In the open, the shutter speed can be set since light doesn't really change quickly over short distances (and time periods), and aperture can be left alone. Manual focus can give fine adjustments well. However, I think Aperture priority and a decent AF system makes life easier, even for the skilled.
So, on the D50 you have two quick choices for avoiding matrix metering switching- bracket the shot (either with an automatic function or just dial in some compensation and shoot again or just do spot metering and learn what tonal values do on your camera- pretty-much follow the old zone system approach to calibrating your eye and equipment.
Yeah, I also want to get it right the first time. I certainly know I can bracket. I can also take a shot, check the histogram, adjust accordingly, then take another shot. However, that requires 2 shots (no thanks). I just want to be better than that. Getting exposure correct will also improve dynamic range in my photos and reduce the amount of visible noise.
Essentially, without buying a film SLR, I want to "pretend" I'm using film, have a limited number of shots, and take as few as possible to get it right. I hadn't take many shots with my D50.
Obviously, anyone can choose between "become a better photographer" and "buy more point-and-shoot capability-" I'm just not a fan of the latter.
Did you misunderstand what I meant? I wouldn't buy a camera because of better matrix metering. I meant I don't want to say the camera is a limiting factor. Ever. I wanted to buy a new camera because the body gives me more control, a
decent viewfinder (!!!), and better AF. From there, the D300 offers you much improved AF.
I think I'm buying a D80 soon, regardless of whether I can remove the filter on my D50's sensor.

It'll be a fun experiment.
I usually had to shoot at ISO 1600 at concerts, which the D50 was good at. The focusing stinks, though. The centre AF point is good enough (for me), while the non-middle AF points were useless and never focused. I could use the centre AF focus point, but the "focus and recompose" method is completely flawed at short distances.

Some photographers do it all the time, but it's not good enough in front of the stage.
For the last month, I've been playing with matrix metering on my D2x for landscapes, and honestly I don't see an advantage to using it over center-weighted or spot metering- it misses enough that I'm happier with a constant process that produces results every time than one-offing anything that might hurt the CPU's interpretation. Use a crutch too much and your leg atrophies. Use a function too much and your skills atrophy.
Matrix metering has only one real benefit, which is speed/convenience. I'm so used to my D50's matrix metering that one shot is usually good enough for landscapes. Either I set the exposure compensation correctly the first time, or if I want to be more sure, I'll zoom in and measure the exposure at one part of the frame, and then zoom back out, set the exposure manually (or adjust it as necessary), and shoot. I tend to use matrix metering in social situations. Being a university student, I find myself in those circumstances quite a bit.