So i've got it working again...
1) find and install the clicktoflash extension for Safari (not available through Apple's extensions list, you have to download yourself)
2) open the settings, and click the Media Player tab
3) Initial Behavior: Preload
4) Instant Autoplay: unselect this
Then you get what you see in the image below: the video is loaded, and you can click where it says html5 if you wish to play. and now, if you right click that same spot, you have a menu option to download the video.
** Credit to Redhorse819 from another forum, and those above for their help.