Right, there are laws governing mergers and acquisitions. They don't prevent them at all, but they are subject to approval. While the regulatory agencies do have some latitude, the laws create the criteria to determine what criteria an agency can or cannot use to decide if an acquisition can go through. The decisions can be challenged in court, but even the courts must apply the laws as written. This isn't up to the whims of the FTC, they have guidelines they must follow.
Apple does not own ARM. Yet, they have a world class CPU team that has made their own custom designs that implement the ARM ISA. There is nothing preventing Nvidia from doing the same. Your first point is moot. Qualcomm recently made another acquisition to do what Apple is doing - and they didn't need to own ARM to do it.
The problem with Nvidia + ARM is that it gives Nvidia the potential to stamp out AMD + ARM, or Qualcomm + ARM. In fact, Qualcomm has objected to the acquisition, they don't believe it will benefit them. Google and Microsoft have expressed concerns as well. It isn't just US companies or the US government who have reservations about this deal.
You are correct in that so far ARM has been primarily used in mobile. However, Apple isn't the only vendor selling ARM-based laptops. They're the largest, and they've made the biggest commitment, but they are not the only ones. Likewise, others are bringing ARM to the server space. The ARM ecosystem is doing just fine without Nvidia owning ARM.
In order to make fair revenue comparisons, you would need to separate out the revenue generated by Apple's chip division rather than the whole company. Apple is a juggernaut, and is really several Fortune 100 companies operating under the same organization. Those billions in revenue also include iPhone and iPad sales (which far exceed Mac sales), accessories like AirPods, HomePods and the watch, and of course the fastest growth is in services revenue.
But ultimately it isn't up to me or you. Like it or not, business has gone global, so several governments need to sign off. As I have mentioned, the UK and EU have also expressed reservations, and those must be addressed before the deal can go through. Your own personal approval is neither sought nor required, but if you'd like to contact your representatives and the FTC on Nvidia's behalf, I'm sure they would be grateful for your endorsement.