I have not seen any direct comparisons between the two but what you say makes sense. I have seen reviews that say that the new i7 8-core is better in both single core and multi-core performance than last year's i9 8-core.
I'm pretty sure my configuration will be similar to yours - i7 with standard glass. I thought about the nano glass but the simple fact is, where my computer is situated in my office glare has just never been an issue for me so it would not make sense to spend $500 to solve a problem that I don't have. A 1TB SSD was always my plan, but now that I know I'm not getting nano-glass nor the i9 processor, I might use some of that money I won't be spending on those items to upgrade from 1TB to 2TB SSD. I will probably also get the 10GBit Ethernet, though I probably won't have a need for it any time soon. I'm also going to max out the Graphics with 5700 XT Pro. As for memory, I'm looking at two 32GB sticks from OWC to add to the stock 8GB for a total of 72GB
I would suggest only using 64 GB and don't mix with the Apple ram. According to several other people who have tried mixing ram, the speeds gets lowered and causes issues. So you're better off with just running OWC instead of mixing.