Success, sort of the machine loads the login screen, its asking for GPU Driver 355.11.10.10.40.102, trying to find this. So it says I also need the Cuda driver manager 418.105_macos.dmg. Downloading.
The driver manager is installing and now says less than one minute until its done... for 12 minutes. Now it says updating preboot volume and successfully installed. Yeah!
Ok, another loop from within the CUDA preferences screen where it has the "Install Cuda Update" button, opened apple iTunes update and then system preferences in that order, the 418.163 installed loaded!!! Registering components.
Now I'm downloading the CUDA ToolKit from developer.invidia.com, still won't show, nogo on the nvidia server despite their (flawed/outdated) documentation, but its really Apples fault. Good to hear they are holding billions of dollars for SJW and outdated ideas that don't work vs creating drivers for customers who loved products they built.
MBP 17" rest in peace, affordable Mac Pro rest in peace, iPod rests in peace.
Tim Cook needs to go, this guy is killing the company.
Looks like I'll have to work up a Linux box on my POS dell machine, Thankfully it has an open PCI slot and I can go to plan b and connect them via ethernet to the op server. GRUMBLING.