Does age matter in dating?

[Abstract]

....I love the relationship I have now because he is mature,he knows what he wants and we have a lot of things in common and I see the diferences like a plus because I learn a lot from him.....

Daddyyyyyy.

Age is definitely a number but when it comes down to going out and having fun I'd hate that number to become a restriction.

People here seem to say things like, "If you're both on the same maturity level, then it's OK." That's true, but I think that's more of a personality issue (ie: whether they match), not a maturity issue.

I just don't understand why most people here don't consider having similar goals, and with a similar timeframe to be equally important? Personally, I wouldn't want to date the most mature person in the world. I'd want someone with a similar moral fiber (no Saints), and someone who I can have fun with. If I loved being with her, and yet we had different goals, then it doesn't matter how compatible we are emotionally because we'd both end up miserable. I don't get what I want out of life, and she doesn't either. Either that, or we both make adjustments and sacrifices to our master plan, and both live with things that we never wanted at all.

 

[iBlue]

^ I agree with that, Abstract.

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I think it's a bit odd for a 24 year old woman to be interested in a 19 year old guy, because (stereotypically speaking) guys at that age are rather immature. In the US, a 19 year old can't even legally have a drink yet. It just seems problematic from a general standpoint. But hey, if you have fun together then that's excellent.

I think once both parties are past 21 things matter a lot less when it comes to age.

Obviously people vary. I'm 30 and my husband is 24 and he's more mature than I am, o) which is quite a surprise (stereotypically speaking). So I know things can work out in that way but it totally depends on the individuals.

For the record, I think the 'older woman - younger man' dynamic can be a great match, especially when it comes to sexual chemistry. Often women take a bit longer to 'develop' and get to know themselves so when paired with the raging libido of a mid-twenties guy, well.

 

[Abstract]

Often women take a bit longer to 'develop' and get to know themselves so when paired with the raging libido of a mid-twenties guy, well.

Well what? Photos, or a more in-depth description, please.

 

[nikopolidis]

Well, I would say that the age doesn't matter if you really love each other...
There is no age for true love I think..
I had many g/fs that were younger than me (about 3 years younger max).. I also had about 3 g/fs older than me (2 years older max). When you are young it is good if your g/f is older than you because she much more experienced than you and sometimes it is good to date with such girl..
Another thing is that young girls like older boys. So it is easier to have dating with younger girl. As for me, now I am alone and i think I want someone younger than me...

 

[Hawkeye411]

When I was 18 I met this beautiful girl accidentally.

Actually she was broke down on the side of the road with a flat tire. It was in town so it was not like she was in any major trouble, but I was a young soldier and eager to assist. Once I had her tire changed and she thanked me, I said " if you really wanna thank me, let me take you dancing. " I was shocked that she agreed. Well we dated for about a month before I found out her age. It turned out the "girl" was a woman 18 years older than I.

How could age have mattered if I did not know her age. Of course the way things are today, if I was 18 or older I would demand proof of a girls age.

Married? Yes I eventually married, but not until I was 31 and married a girl the same age as I.

EDIT: I am 51 now - married 20 great years - 3 great children !!!!

OK .... this didn't really happen did it? You really need to stay away from your wife's romance novels!!

 

[maestro55]

I think it's a bit odd for a 24 year old woman to be interested in a 19 year old guy, because (stereotypically speaking) guys at that age are rather immature.

And if I was the stereotypical 19 year old guy she wouldn't be interested in me. Also, things may not play out, and if they don't I move on. If they do then fantastic. I just wanted to see if anyone else has been in similar situations as me and things worked out or not. Seems in your case they did. If you don't mind answering, how old was your Husband when you started dating him?

 

[iBlue]

And if I was the stereotypical 19 year old guy she wouldn't be interested in me. Also, things may not play out, and if they don't I move on. If they do then fantastic. I just wanted to see if anyone else has been in similar situations as me and things worked out or not. Seems in your case they did. If you don't mind answering, how old was your Husband when you started dating him?

When we first starting seeing each other I was 28, he was 22. I'd never dated a younger guy before but I have to admit, it's worked out brilliantly.

 

[shu82]

My wife is 5 years older than me and I find it really refreshing. All my girlfriends were always younger than me by a couple of years or so. I have always seen myself as much older than i really am. We met when I was 21 and she was 26. We have been together for over 4 years now and married for 1. One of the sweetest moments ever is when I asked her to grow up with me

Also, If you are worried about bars just get a fake ID. Any college age person should know how to get one. I was 21 since I was 17.

 

[katie ta achoo]

For reference, I'm a 19-year old gal.

I find that if we're too many years apart (he being older), it's hard to find things in common. If he's too old, then we're at different points in life, and in my experience, if he's my age, it's hard to NOT find a drunken, immature frat boy. I'm not knocking it, just not my cup of tea.

I do plan on having a sexy 24-year old cabana boy when I'm 70, though.

 

[7on]

I know it's crazy for dating someone, BUT my gf is a whole 10 days younger that I! I know, robbing the cradle!


But joking aside, my mom and dad married when she was 30 and he 24

 

[dmr727]

My wife is two years older than I am. I'm 29 and she's 31. It's close enough that I don't have much to offer this thread, but I'd like to point out that it's fun to end many phrases with, "Well at least I'm not in my thirties!"

Of course, my reign of fun will end this July. Dammit.

 

[dsnort]

My wife is two years older than I am. I'm 29 and she's 31. It's close enough that I don't have much to offer this thread, but I'd like to point out that it's fun to end many phrases with, "Well at least I'm not in my thirties!"

Of course, my reign of fun will end this July. Dammit.

My wife is two years older than me as well, although we're a little further along the you guys, ( 40's). It's always fun to remind her she's older than me.

 

[apsterling]

I'm by no means an expert on the matter, but you should do what makes you happy to be you! If she truly loves you, and you truly love her, as long as you don't break any laws, what's the problem?

It all comes down to whether love is actually present or not.

 

[maestro55]

When we first starting seeing each other I was 28, he was 22. I'd never dated a younger guy before but I have to admit, it's worked out brilliantly.

See, her last boyfriend was 20 and it didn't work out, but that is apparently because he was a jerk. So she expressed concern before we even went on our first date about going with a younger guy but after we went out she said that I was more mature than the guy she dated before.

if he's my age, it's hard to NOT find a drunken, immature frat boy.

Yes, as I said before when I try to meet ladies my age I generally run into a lot of immature women who want to meet a guy that will take care of them (finance wise) now I am pretty traditional with buying gifts and paying for everything on dates but I am not a wealthy guy who is going to let a lady have one of my credit cards. The other ladies I meet are generally far too different than myself. There is certainly a lack of intelligent, creative, eclectic, non-religious women in Waco, Texas and I was lucky to meet someone who matched what I was looking for. I always figured I would meet someone at least a few years older just because of the fact that I am not your average 19 year old party guy.