The selling point of any AirPod is the integration. Other than that, there are better alternatives ”for the money” or often much less. And the integration really only becomes an issue for the 3rd device. All of the current headphones in this space do a good job switching between 2 devices. The third is when things can fall apart. Having said that, the AirPod line is perfect at this either. My AirPod Pro often get confused or “lose” one of the earbuds.
For me the real barrier for the APM is their design. They are too heavy to wear for extended periods and seem to simply not be a travel headphone. Get it to 300g or less and put them in a proper case and now we are talking.
Incidentally, those defending the case. Just stop. It is ridiculous and you know it. There is no situation in which that joke is better than a true case.
For me, auto switching is a non-issue, although I appreciate how seamlessly the APMs handle it. But it's always been about Spatial Audio. Nobody else has anything else close. I predict this will eventually become the killer feature of the APMs, especially when (as rumored) new Macs and Apple TVs bring support, along with a simultaneous announcement from Netflix.
Do you own a pair? The weight issue was predicted but has quickly become a non-factor. These are about as comfortable a pair as I've owned. The weight becomes a non-issue once you actually wear them. Clamping force is too tight for some, but that's easily adjusted.
Another thing nobody mentions. Apple's ANC creates zero pressure on the eardrums when active, and the transparent mode is much more natural sounding than the competition.
The case? Omigod, volumes have been written. I, too, thought it was stupid... right up until I actually saw it. Now I prefer them to cases supplied with every other headphone on the market. They do look a bit silly, but functionally provide as much protection as anyone will ever need (unless you think a cheap plastic clamshell provides protection). The phones are more sturdy than the competition, and the case takes up far less space than clamshells - a consideration with carry on luggage. Hardly what I would call "ridiculous".