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I feel like my iPad was not coated well either...I have a 3GS and I can literally wipe it once on my jeans and it looks brand new. My iPad I can scrub for like 5 minutes with a microfiber cloth and it still looks smudgy.

Just a guess, but I'm betting you hold your iPad more tightly then your iPhone.
 
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