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Have you reached a "point of no return?"
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I have dreams of changing my career and possibly starting my own business... but feel like I make too much money at my 9-5 job to make any drastic changes right now. I have a family to support, and we live very modestly - so, changing careers and lowering my family's income would make things difficult for the entire family.
Sometimes it's hard going to work and staying focused - but then I remember my paycheck and try to be grateful that I'm not living in poverty like some.
Sometimes it's hard going to work and staying focused - but then I remember my paycheck and try to be grateful that I'm not living in poverty like some.
There are situations where the varying potential outcomes of continuing forward are all better than stopping or turning back. And there are situations where stopping or turning back would be catastrophic.
Lame examples I've encountered, due more to laws of physics than social dynamics:
1. When I went paragliding, I watched the people run down a slope on the crest of a mountain. If the wind did not catch the chute, and properly deploy it, they would collapse the chute and try it all over again. But, too near the edge, there was a point of no return, where you could not collapse the chute, and would be dragged off the mountain if it was partially deployed, and you tried to stop. So, if your chute was partially deployed at that point, you had to just keep running, and fling yourself off the mountain, and hope that it fully deployed before you smashed to bits.
2. When I went skidiving, once I climbed out of the plane, and was hanging onto the wing, there was no way back, except by plummeting down. The guy ahead of me froze up, and just stayed there, so the instructor kicked his feet out, and forced him off the plane.
Conception/birth of our daughter (and our second in about 4.5 months).
I'm not sure that it's changed me that much but it has brought an entirely different meaning and order of priorities to my life.
I'm not sure that it's changed me that much but it has brought an entirely different meaning and order of priorities to my life.
I realized that I forgot my lunch while I was on the subway. In a cost-benefit analysis, there's no sense in going back to get a ham sandwich. Sort of a "no point of return".
Yesterday, I returned a book I had collected reward points on, which they took back. Sort of a "return with no points".
Now, I am about to hit Command+Return without adding anything of use to this thread. Sort of a "No point on return."
I could go on, but there's no
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Yesterday, I returned a book I had collected reward points on, which they took back. Sort of a "return with no points".
Now, I am about to hit Command+Return without adding anything of use to this thread. Sort of a "No point on return."
I could go on, but there's no
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Thanks for the posts, folks. Each person has different concept on this as he/she has different takes on various milestones in life. Ideally, one would like to be a master of one's destiny; but, there are so many factors which make it difficult to do so and once something is in motion (relationship, career, and what not), oftentimes it would be difficult to follow a different path (if one is well too deep into what one has been doing). It seems many people tend to stay the course after passing that important point.
Certainly, most people do stay on a certain path after a certain point, but there are many reasons for this
The effort of changing may be more than the value
There may be fear of the unknown
Other people may get hurt
It might just be comfortable
They may actually enjoy it
There's a saying over here, there are only two sure things in life - death and a nurse
. Everything else can be changed, but it's often not worth bothering. There may be too many other factors involved. Often it's right to be selfish, and consider what you need, but you also have to balance that with the needs of those around you, and selflessness can be better sometimes (as long as you are sure it won't leave you bitter - then everyone loses).
The effort of changing may be more than the value
There may be fear of the unknown
Other people may get hurt
It might just be comfortable
They may actually enjoy it
There's a saying over here, there are only two sure things in life - death and a nurse
. Everything else can be changed, but it's often not worth bothering. There may be too many other factors involved. Often it's right to be selfish, and consider what you need, but you also have to balance that with the needs of those around you, and selflessness can be better sometimes (as long as you are sure it won't leave you bitter - then everyone loses).
I feel I've stared down the point of no return several times, and each time I've returned (that's not meant as melodramatic as it sounds).
This is something I'm alternately grateful for and entirely not proud of.
Such that:
I'm fortunate enough to have elected my abandonments.
Or:
I've found a thread that pulls enough along.
This is something I'm alternately grateful for and entirely not proud of.
Such that:
I'm fortunate enough to have elected my abandonments.
Or:
I've found a thread that pulls enough along.
Right now my life is a big dancehall bash....things are good then they turn sour...I've done things I'm not sure of but I did it....point of no return is not an option..I'm just trying to life to the fullest.
Bless
Bless
When I first saw the topic of this thread, I thought the question was going to be "Have you reached the point of never returning to using a PC?"
My point of no return was saying "I do" to the perfect woman for me. Now there is no going back, and who would want to? There is a big world out there and a partner for life - bring it on.
