My experience is identical to yours. I recently bought my sister an M2 MacBook Air with 8GB/512GB, and it runs like a champ for what she needs: web-browsing, e-mail, listening to music, viewing / organizing photos, video conferences and web-based work apps (MS Office365 etc.).I am still waiting for someone to show me why 8GB RAM is not usable for normal uses of the Mac. No, I don't want to look at Activity Monitor or a benchmark. I want an example of some normal thing you can't do with an 8GB Mac.
My sister just bought a base model M2 with 8GB RAM and 256GB SSD. I tried it out and it can edit iPhone photos, shop on Amazon, and read emails. Siri can turn her lights on and off, Garage Band seems to work, and so on. I can't seem to find anything that is really slow.
I think Apple got it right.
My Mac Mini has twice the base specs, I use it for engineering work, CAD, and simulation but I've yet to run really complex models on it yet. (pause) OK, I just took few minutes and looks at a CNC mill that I'm designing, there must be 1000+ parts. Fusion 360 runs very well. CPU was at 50% and GPU at 90%, RAM was 11GB but I've also got Chrome browser and a Python development system running. The M2-Pro seems to outperform my old 16-core Xeon-based Linux PC for many things. (The PC with 64GB RAM installed was MUCH better at running a set of virtual machines.)
The base model works for 90% of users and the "doubled spec'd" M2-Pro seems to be a good match for engineering and software development.
Again, what real-world problems are people noticing on their 8GB Macs?
Despite watching videos explaining the benefits of a 16GB over a 512GB SSD (if you could only choose one upgrade), I went with the larger SSD because it's actually more useful for her usage.
I did think long and hard about the 8GB vs 16GB because I haven't bought a machine with less than 16GB since 2014 for my own use...but... my usage is completely different to hers, both for work (development & cloud engineering, lots of online conferencing with video capture) and pleasure (audio engineering, video editing, astro-photo processing). My 32GB MBP14 with M1 Max replaced a (somewhat old) Xeon workstation with a half-decent GPU.
There are several assumptions being made a lot here:
(1) That 8GB RAM renders the machine almost useless for anything - it really doesn't for a pretty large percentage of Mac users. Individual users will need to assess their own needs and not assume they know other people's.
(2) That the cost of the (in their opinion "essential") RAM upgrade is extreme. It's a lot more than it costs Apple, I'm sure, but not actually completely out of line with other vendors.
(3) That the whole machine is too expensive for what it is. That's a subjective value statement, so you either agree with it to a degree, or you don't.
Apple is just offering an entry level, albeit an expensive one, for the people who will be fine with 8GB.
Fore everyone else, try to just mentally add the $200 to the price and make that your new "base price". It makes the already expensive machine even more expensive, but it's probably going to make you feel happier about the purchase.