Sorry to hear you spent money on gear that didnt solve your problem, even after doing research.. i created an account here to share my own findings.
Im in a similar situation. I have heard almost all usb solutions will reduce DAC performance due to "jitter" unless you spend 1800+ on prosumer audio setups...
I am ready to just go "vintage" and get an "old" 2012 Airport Express. Imagine my surprise when i was ready to spend 1200 on a dac, 1800 on a usb-optical converter with de-jittering, just to listen to high res audio, and discover apple's $99 router is the absolute best option for non-usb audio via optical out. Who would have thought?
Here is a link to the test i am referencing:
http://www.kenrockwell.com/apple/airport-express-audio-quality-2014.htm