I can confirm the mid-2009 MBP can handle 8GB of memory, because I've got one and did the upgrade.
My experience with Parallels running Win7 on that MBP, even with 8GB of memory, is that not only was it slow, I had to close out almost every other app before firing it up or it would run at a snail's pace...even with 4GB assigned to Parallels.
I didn't do an SSD upgrade, so hopefully that would make enough of a difference to make Parallels/Win7 more useable.
FYI...on my 2.7GHz/16GB/512GB rMBP I can have Photoshop, Dreamweaver, Aperture, Safari, iTunes, Mail, Calendar running and open Parallels/Win7 without any problems. Not only that, Parallels much, much, much faster...opening and resuming takes under 5 seconds. The desktop is instantly available. IE will launch and display a window in around 2 seconds. SmartGuard will delete and make new Snapshot in under 1 1/2 minutes.
When all of that is running along with Parallels, the machine is using about 12GB of memory.
Just sayin'.
My experience with Parallels running Win7 on that MBP, even with 8GB of memory, is that not only was it slow, I had to close out almost every other app before firing it up or it would run at a snail's pace...even with 4GB assigned to Parallels.
I didn't do an SSD upgrade, so hopefully that would make enough of a difference to make Parallels/Win7 more useable.
FYI...on my 2.7GHz/16GB/512GB rMBP I can have Photoshop, Dreamweaver, Aperture, Safari, iTunes, Mail, Calendar running and open Parallels/Win7 without any problems. Not only that, Parallels much, much, much faster...opening and resuming takes under 5 seconds. The desktop is instantly available. IE will launch and display a window in around 2 seconds. SmartGuard will delete and make new Snapshot in under 1 1/2 minutes.
When all of that is running along with Parallels, the machine is using about 12GB of memory.
Just sayin'.