They're more likely to think you forgot you'd already sent one. Also, if they rejected your request and hence don't want to be your friend, who cares if they think you're creepy!
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I wish Facebook would show rejected friend requests
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I've done some digging. While this won't help for all time.
If someone deletes or declines a friend request. You can't send another request for a year. If they really don't want to hear from you. They can block requests permanently.
So, while you can't see a list of closed requests. If you have the option of sending a request. You at least know that person hasn't declined within the last year.
I don't think that it's unreasonable to send a request once a year. If they really don't want to hear from you they can ignore it once a year or block you permanently.
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Wow, so I don't know if this is something new or not, because I could've swore just the other day one person whom I know for sure I DID send a request to still had the "Add Friend" button show up on their profile. But after reading your post I looked them up again and sure enough there is no "Add Friend" button anymore (only "Send Message"). So as long as they keep it this way, this solves my issue. Thanks!!!
You're welcome. There's posts about this going back years. So, I assume it's been around a while.
Then it must be my flaky memory about whom I've sent requests to! Also, I just checked, and the FB mobile app DOES show the "Add Friend" button for this person in question, but it's grayed out. So it must not have registered with me when I checked the other day that the button wasn't actually active. The FB website doesn't show the button at all.
I agree with yaxomoxay and I think this is one thing that FB got right. If I want to accept your invitiation that's great, but if I don't I'd rather keep my decision to myself.
It seems your opinion is very much in the minority and people seem to think there is a lot more value in the way FB manages the invitation process now then having more of their private choices made known
As mentioned several times now, there's another way to do it without showing the request as "rejected" and I don't think the small handful of users who have objected here is a big enough sample size to extrapolate any meaningful conclusion about the popularity of my opinion among the entire FB user base of billions of people
But as I also stated (and amended my OP), the issue is now solved, based on the info I learned from velocityg4 in post 24. So I'm going to bow out of this thread now rather than continue to repeat things I've already clarified.
Thanks!
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OP, none of us have to accept a friend request from someone who hasn't been in touch for the last 20+ years. Nor do most want that person to be sitting around waiting for the 30 days to see if we do eventually accept the request, especially next to a profile picture that changes multiple times in that duration. Not having a feature like that now means that people just silently forget/accept and move on which is what you want over a message on day 25 from them saying if you remember them and asking how things are.
There's nothing stopping them from doing their own list/checking/messaging you endlessly of course, but you need to design the software itself to not be used for keeping tabs on people like that to begin with. Popular ideas are popular, but not always the right direction to take. It's why there's so much talk about AirTags and their abuse potential.
There's nothing stopping them from doing their own list/checking/messaging you endlessly of course, but you need to design the software itself to not be used for keeping tabs on people like that to begin with. Popular ideas are popular, but not always the right direction to take. It's why there's so much talk about AirTags and their abuse potential.
Of course, I never said such a thing. I swear, some people just read random stuff into people's posts! FWIW, the people I had in question are people I see on a regular or semi-regular basis. Now that I know the information from post 24 (that you can't send a friend request for a year to someone who's rejected your initial request), I feel better knowing the people I thought might have rejected a friend request from me didn't actually do so (because the "Add Friend" button still appears on their profile) - I simply hadn't sent them a request but thought I had. I know 1 person who rejected for sure (that I knew I sent a request to) and I'm not sure why - but some people have their own specific rules about whom they accept, and it doesn't mean they have an issue with you personally. So I'm not letting it bother me. The issue I was having was not being sure if I had even sent a request (that was rejected). But that issue is now resolved.
Btw, my idea of just keeping all requests listed as "pending" is the best solution, because the current system actually indicates (if you remember whom you sent requests, and you see the request is no longer showing under "sent requests") that someone has rejected your request - which is precisely what some here said they didn't want others to know.
Yeah, yeah. I see you on your soap box.