Ok. So a little update and more frustrations. After threatening the iPad with a trip to the genius bar at midnight, and deleting and re setting up the exchange email again, it pushes the inbox.
I would like to be able to keep my trash and sent in sync as well. On my iPhone, I do not have the settings to push the trash and sent folders, however when I accessed those folders for the first time, all of the mail populated, and stayed. All I do to update them is manually go into thre folder and any new trash or sent populates. So all of my trash and sent is perfectly there and searchable on my iPhone.
Now, when I go to the trash folder or sent folder on my iPad, the emails populate slowly, then stop at a certain point, sometimes disappear. When i go back into the folder they are gone, etc. Very erratic. If I set the mail to sync those folders, as I should be able to, they do not load, AND! my push inbox no longer pushes!!!!!! I have to delete the account, reset it up, and soft reset the iPad for the inbox to push again.
What gives? Does anyone out there have their trash, sync, and sub folders nicely syncing on the iPad. I refuse to believe that anything that works so perfectly on the iPhone just won't on iPad.