Another female techie iPad owner-to-be here. Mine should arrive from UPS tomorrow or Friday.
As for the haters - I am well used to them. I was a club / radio dj for many years when women were just not in that business (started aged sixteen). I got haters and ignorant comments all the time. I repaired pcs for a while too. Guess how that went down with insecure men ? I'm now doing website design and tech support for a local charity, and fronting a blues rock band - all the other members are blokes. So none of that sexist crap turns my eyes.

I am also severely sight impaired (registered blind) so not only do I get sexist comments, I get disable-ist comments too. I also run a music workshop / band for visually impaired people which has three women members and two male. Ha - in the majority for once.

My advice would be the same as many have said about the haters - ignore 'em. They get bored and go away to find something else to do soon. And if they don't - when they're talking about you, they're leaving some poor other bugger alone.
As for iPad accessories - I got the camera kit and dock coming and I have a SwitchEasy nude in white waiting to go on. I am looking forward to using the camera kit with a few usb mics to record the band/s. I already have a bunch of bags that will house my iPad - I was buying them back in February. I love those Mulberry bags but I would have to sell a kidney to be able to afford one. It took me long enough to save for the iPad !
I like pretty bags that are functional - not easy to come by really. Give me lots of compartments and pockets in a bag for all my kit and I'm a happy rabbit.
Thanks for setting this thread up OP - I have seen a few sistas floating around here but no where to coalesce. I have really enjoyed hanging out in the UK threads though - but I have been almost always mistaken for a dude despite often talking about my partner being a bloke. Maybe they thought I was a gay fella.