The seller appears to be confused as there are only single and dual CPU trays. I suspect he is using "4 core" to refer to the single CPU tray and "8 core" to refer to the dual CPU tray.If that's the case then my CPU is probably dead also. The seller told me to get the 4 core 8 core tray so I could change the firmware... I have no idea what to do.
Right now the fans just spin slow speed (the case fan close to the PSU will start up for a second, then stops (I was told that fan only runs if the temp requires it)
Your original posts implies a single CPU tray is installed however I'm wondering if you have a dual CPU tray installed and one of the CPUs is giving you an issue. We know the CPU has been changed as no cMP was sold by Apple with a 3.46GHz CPU. If the CPU tray is a dual CPU tray the upgrade may have gone wrong thus resulting in your issue.
The 2009 dual CPU tray is unique in that it require a lidless CPU which makes them more difficult to upgrade. It is not uncommon for someone who has upgraded the CPUs in this tray to have flaky results.
Can you let us know if it is a single or dual CPU tray? You can easily tell because the single CPU tray has four RAM slots whereas the dual CPU tray has eight RAM slots.
Regarding using a 4,1 CPU tray with a 5,1 system (and vice-versa). It's my understanding the only issue one encounters by mixing the two is a lack of fan control (i.e. the fans run at full speed). Other than that the system should boot and operate as expected. Therefore if you are using mixed parts I see no reason why the mismatch would cause the system to fail to boot.