It really comes down to your preferences. I have both phones the 11 pro max and note 10+.
They both have awesome cameras. Not much of a difference between them.
I use faceunlock/faceid on both of them but acknowledge FaceID is much more secure on the 11 pro max
Have you used a Note before? the S-Pen is a great feature. don't use it a ton. But when I needed it is a a great feature to have.
I also don't stream a lot of music or movies on my phones. I prefer to store them locally.
The Note 10+ comes with 256GB of default storage and a an SD Card slot.
I have 30GB of music and 50GB of movies on a 256GB Samsung SD card.
My 11 pro max came with 64GB for the same price as the note 10+ with 256GB
Android offers much more customization than IOS on the 11 pro max. But IOS is pretty smooth and offers a great user experience.
I think video recording is better on the 11 pro max tbh.
It comes down to personal preferences. If you have a LOT of Apple devices in your house....might be better to go with the iPhone to be honest as it all works pretty seamless together.
If you have a mixed environment (such as me

) Android makes a great change of pace and offers (IMHO) more choices and options.
I love my Note 10+ and I use it more than my 11 Pro Max