Should I return my 48GB for 64GB M3 Max?
I upgraded from the 16GB M1 pro MBP because my memory pressure was too high and the performance was slacking. Right now I'm seeing the memory getting gobbled up but performance is decent. However, my M1 was also fine at first and then slowed down as my use increased.
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So the "problem" is only noticed if you run a special purpose tool (Activity Meter)? Do you have an problem while actually doing work and then ren Activity Meter to diagnose it. Replace the Mac only if the problem shows up in actual use.
I'd say if there is a problem here, it would be while running Windows apps. You have only given Windows 9 GB of RAM. That is only enough for very simple use.
Finally are you really using all of these apps at the same time or maybe some are in the background doing nothing but taking up space. If they are not in active use, let MacOS swap out their RAM.