What A Rough Night

[spicyapple]

Divorces make me so frustrated. I don't understand how the rates can just explode in one generation.

I'm not sure it was better in the older generations. Married couples living under the same roof hating each other, but can't divorce because it brings shame to the family, community and against religious principles. Lots of people living totally unhappy lives with a partner they want to scratch their eyeballs out each morning.

I don't know which is worse, but divorce can't be seen as completely bad.

luv ya bunches! xoxoxo

 

[floriflee]

I'm so sorry to hear that. My oldest sister went through a divorce a couple of years back after 10 years of marriage. Thank goodness there weren't any kids because that would've made it so much harder. I've heard that it takes about a year for every 10 years of marriage to recover and to feel ready to date again (on average). I think that's about what it took for her....

In any case, I hope your kids are able to take this all well and that you have the support you need to get through this.

 

[MacPanda]

Hey Dude, just wanted to say something - just try to hang in there, i haven't been through a divorce but i came from a home where parents were constantly fighting and using the kids as pawns and grabbing attention, the best thing is to focus on what is good, which is your kids and make sure they know you love them. The best thing is just to leave with peace and with no issues as i know divorce can be bitter.

Well on the positive side you aren't old and to be honest you will find love again.

wishing you health + happiness

Anthony

 

[tringo]

I'm not sure it was better in the older generations. Married couples living under the same roof hating each other, but can't divorce because it brings shame to the family, community and against religious principles. Lots of people living totally unhappy lives with a partner they want to scratch their eyeballs out each morning.

I don't know which is worse, but divorce can't be seen as completely bad.

luv ya bunches! xoxoxo

http://www.cfc-efc.ca/docs/vanif/00005_en.htm

Check this out. startling figures.

 

[Mr. Durden]

Thanks yet again for all the kind words everyone. Tomorrow morning Ive got a court date to go over the initial paperwork and agreements at the court. The closer it gets, the sadder I get. This is such a messed up situation... Feels like something so huge, you know there is no way to get over or through it, and yet there is no avoiding it either.

The terrible thing about this all too is that I dont even want the divorce. Half the time she doesnt seem like she does either, but she says she is too scared to keep working on it because she is afraid its futile. So instead of risking failure or further hurt feelings, she would rather just get it over and done with so we can both move on. It doesnt make sense to me, but there is no stopping it... This is f@*%ing killing me. Honestly. She and the rest of my family have been the very meaning of my life for nearly half my life (we started dating when I was 17, Im 33 now). Now its all gone and for the last couple of weeks, we cant even talk without a full fledged fight breaking out. How the hell do you just "move on" after this? You know that feeling when you get really upset and it lands right in your throat, and your stomach gets all tight and sick? Im like that all the time. God... I know people have been through much worse, but for me this seems as bad as I can possibly take.

Ill post back tomorrow for anyone who may care about how the court date goes. And even if you dont care, at least I can get it out and maybe feel a little better... Cheers everyone.

 

[xJulianx]

My thoughts will be with you for tomorrow. I wish you the best of luck. Hang in there buddy, I know it doesn't make any sense why all of this is happening, but these things happen for a reason. You'll find your feet soon enough.

 

[nitynate]

Good luck, I really feel for you, and am disappointed things didn't work out in the end.


It's all for the best.
Listen to some music.


Go to a concert.
Dance.


I hope everything goes well in court.

 

[Mr. Durden]

Thanks for all the concern and kind words everyone. I'm feeling much better now and I'm feeling a little more positive about things working out for the best. Next time I'm feeling that down, I'll look back at these posts and I'm sure they will cheer me up. Cheers to everyone and I guess I'll see you 'round MacRumors...

 

[SpookTheHamster]

Hmm, you're still young and you live in Colorado. Want to know what I'd do? Call Mark at Mile High Skates (I think he's in Superior?), get a longboard and cruise around. No matter how old you get it's a fantastic way to relieve stress and pass time.