Is there a particular reason why Apple SoC cannot operate at 250W if Intel/AMD/NVIDIA GPU can? I think not. Apple SoC for Mac will not be built with all day battery life as a key feature.
As Rastafabi pointed out in another thread, GPU tasks on Apple SoC are split into dedicated processors for machine learning and encoding video and maybe soon raytracing. For Mac Pro, there is already a dedicated video processing card in the form of the After burner. We may see more of these dedicated cards for instance for ML leaving Apple SoC to handle "just" the true graphics. Everything is about efficacy and splitting the general purpose GPU/CPU into dedicated silicon for separate functions seem to be a viable way to be explored.
In that contexts, it is interesting how the Mac pro is constructed. The introduction of the MPX modules (which do very little for traditional GPU packaging) looks like an excellent package for a high power dedicated Apple Silicon ML modules or other functions.
There are ARM CPUs for servers that have c. 225W TDP, so it's not unreasonable to think that Apple could develop a SoC with 250W TDP or even greater, provided the cooling is there - which it is in a Mac Pro.
It will be very interesting to see if APUs or SoC designs can match the huge PCIe GPU cards found in workstations & gaming desktops.
In the case of the Mac Pro, it wouldn't surprise me to see an exception to the "single memory architecture" for GPU & CPU, and see the ARM SoC use PCIe 4 to interface to a discrete GPU - designed by Apple or AMD.