I'll also add my performance notes here. Again, nothing scientific. Just my impressions after switching back and forth between the two machines for a week.
Conclusion - The machines are essentially the same for running daily tasks.
Here's my list of programs that are usually open:
Mail, Contacts, Calendar
MS Teams
Parallels Remote Application (not full Parallels)
Excel
MS Notes
Safari - 15-20 tabs
Chrome - 3-5 tabs
Messages
Dropbox
OneDrive
Things
Boot - Both took 16-17 seconds to boot. My 2019 Intel I9 takes 40 seconds to boot.
Program Start - After a reboot, programs can take a few bounces to start the first time. Teams took 5, Word and Excel took 9 bounces. But after the first start, if you close them and re-open them, they all start in 1 bounce. Again, exact same speed for the Pro and the Max. The Intel was similar.
General work - both machines were equally smooth when working in programs. Scrolling, switching tasks, etc was the same and pretty much instant. I manipulate some large (10-20mb) excel files and sorting was equally fast. No beach balls.
RAM - With the same programs and the same tasks open, the Max with 32GB shows 20-25 GB in use while the Pro with 16GB shows 10-12GB. I think the Max uses more just b/c it's there.
Heat - I don't think I've heard the fans come on yet. Both models got a little warm on the bottom during initial setup. OneDrive, Dropbox, and mail download, indexing, photos sync got them a little warm. Not enough to trigger the fan but a little warm.
I think based on the fans never coming on, my workflow clearly isn't coming close to taxing these machines. If your workflow is similar to mine, I'm here to tell the Pro with 16GB of Ram is more than enough. Not only do you not need the Max with 32GB, it actually won't make anything you're doing go faster. Considering how often the fans ran with my Intel, I would not have guessed this to be the case.
The only things I may do in the future that will tax this processor are photo or video editing. When that happens, my guess is it will take a few seconds and possibly a few minutes longer with the Pro vs the Max. I'll just go get a snack or probably check my mail while that process is running in the background.
I have not tested external monitors as I do think that could be a big difference in taxing the capabilities of the Pro vs the Max. If you need multiple hi res monitors, you likely want the Max.
I am one of the people that was very worried about only 16GB of RAM. I think Apple's implementation of Ram, processor, and high speed SSD means this 16GB works more efficiently than Intel setups. Quite frankly, I did want to trust Apple a bit here. in my mind, there had to be a reason Apple launched with 16GB. If they wanted to upsell, they'd offer the 16GB but they would have stocked the 32GB, forcing us all to upgrade to the 32GB. The fact the 16GB is so widely available led me to believe they determined it's more than enough for most people. In my case, that's definitely true.
As some background, I'm someone that upgrades my iPhone Max every year and upgrades MacBooks about every 2 years. I have no issues paying for the Max with 32GB. I'm coming from a 2019 Intel i9 with 32GB and a 2TB drive. That was the 'upgrade' stock config 2 years ago. I only bring that up to say I'm someone that would normally go for the higher config. But I don't think it's necessary so I'll happily save a few bucks.
So far, my only complaint is the weight. I wish it were the same as the last generation. The extra half pound is noticeable.
The Max will be going to a colleague on Monday. Doubtful I'll be running any more tests as I have the answers I needed. But if I can answer any questions while I've still got both computers in my hands, let me know and I'll do my best.