Message to ReanimationN: I am genuinely puzzled that anyone would take Android seriously if they are coming from the Apple ecosystem and the iPad and iPhone. You and I apparently see eye to eye on this. What do think is going on here? Is it the widgets and live wallpapers that are causing people to overlook the obvious deficiencies? Is it possible that others are finding that Android apps are on a par with iOS apps?
I think a lot of it is what you mentioned- the customisability of widgets, launchers, having the file system accessible etc.
Plus, I think some Android fans feel like they're sticking it to the man by siding with an open-source OS, over Apple's more restrictive models, or they simply don't like iOS or Apple. As I mentioned though, if you don't like iOS devices, Windows 8 devices are now available and don't suffer from the same performance issues that Android devices have- you don't have to buy an Android if you don't go with Apple!
What I don't get (like you were saying) is why there are Android apologists- the ones who get heated if you suggest there's something lacking in Android's performance. I work with one and was talking about it with him at lunch today, he was getting quite upset at the idea of lag being in Jelly Bean and wouldn't accept that I'd been having issues with my Nexus 7. Why? I'm quite happy to admit that iOS is incredibly limited and has awful maps, despite owning a new iPhone 5. It does, however, nail the basics (using it to place bets on the go is awesome, it's so responsive), which Android doesn't.
What you describe isn't lag. It's designed not to exactly follow your finger. There's a bit of a dead space before it reacts.
We have both ipads and androids. There's no discernible differences in "dragging things around" performance. Except that the iphone 4 was becoming a lag beast before we sold it.
What? Why on Earth would you design a touch-based device to not respond to touch?