So I updated a contact on my phone. It did not update on my computer. I check in iTunes and the check box for "sync contacts" is not selected. I try to select it. It tells me that I am syncing with iCloud and that if I check the box I will get duplicate contacts. HOW DOES THIS MAKE ANY SENSE???? I want the contacts on my computer to match my phone. What am I not getting?
Dont bother with iTunes for mail or contacts.
I dont know the ver of OSX your using but would be bets to upgrade to 10.7.2
Make sure all the updates are done on your mac and be sure you created an appleID
Update iPhone
Use your Primary AppleID (only if you added more emails to your apple ID account) for your new iOS on iPhone
The new iOS will fill in a little bit of your needed options like iCloud mail etc
Best to check and verify that your AppleID is there in all the apps you want associated with your AppleID once you start using your iPhone again.
Switch over to icloud if needed from MobileMe
http://www.me.com/move (existing ME users)
Heres the tricky part I encountered after setting up 7 icloud accounts
https://appleid.apple.com manage your AppleID
Best thing to do is use only one AppleID for iTunes, iCloud
So if you have a iTunes account/AppleID use this one for iCloud
You should be ready to go
After adding contacts via, Mac, iPad, iPhone with same AppleID (each device using your appleID) they will go to the cloud and sync with each other with no additional effort required.
Dont manage these things like mail, contacts etc via iTunes... iCloud will do this.
Mail should be available on all devices using same AppleID included the mail.app on macosx of the mail account info is configured in the mail.app
Sorry for my earlier remarks and no this is not an easy transition but you opened the door
Anyway I hope this helps Ill correct this if needed as I create more accounts.