Ok, so I went a little crazy since I had a really bad day and then coming home to this was the last drop, well, I just said F*#$ it and did the following:
Grabbed the old board and installed the old CPU's onto it, just like that with the already on thermal paste on cpu and heatsink and i did not count how many turns i gave to the cpu and i just went with it until i was like maybe one more will break this sh@*%. Plugged the old board into the case and WTF it turned on! I got kernel panics but it TURNED ON!!!
After I saw that the old board was giving kernel panics non stop i thought, well, this has to be related to the bent pins so lets put the new board and do the same, just fuc@# it.
So i did, and IT TURNED ON!! But without kernel panics!! So now i have it working but I am afraid that since I did not reapply the thermal paste again and kept on just swapping and trying, swapping and trying this and that, the temp is going to get weird.
I started monitoring the CPU temp with a tool I have and I see I have a 9 to 10 degree difference between the Diodes/Heatsink/Core PCECI between CPU A & B. Not sure if this is normal of if both CPUs should be the same.
Nice! glad you got it working so far. So it sounds like your main issue was not tightening it down good enough. If you got kernal pannics its possible that you still needed to tightening it down a tiny bit more. If i was you, id test the other processors in the first trey and see if you can get it working without any problems. Rebend an bent pins back into place, but do it cautiously, to much it'll rip right out. I'd suggest a tooth pick that way your just pushing instead of tweezers which will pull.
Also a side note/warning. When it comes to these mac pros and the processors, never touch them when your having a bad day. These installs need 100% of your attention.