Sorry to hear that. When returning do they ask for a reason why you are returning?Mine is back in the box ready to ship back in the morning. I know I can’t tolerate the noise. And I also know the same level machine is silent in the MBP 16. I’ll wait and see what the Mac Pro delivers and how much it costs.
With Mac Pro AS, look to see if they remove the loud side blower fan or gets a queiter one, then it really will be a much quieter machine.