that's too funny...i certainly get your point.
my GF is an amazing visual artist and supportive of what i do. she even helped me set up my absurdly huge fender rhodes this evening.
furthermore: she actually talked me into buying a new piece of gear this last week
needless to say, she's a rare find.
my EX, OTOH, just never understood-regardless of the fact i've been a successful writer/producer for many years...but my kids think it's cool.
moral of the story: if you're gonna have musical gear in the house-marry an artist.
That is so great to have an understanding mate.
When one has to justify a big purchase for a Marshall half stack or Fender Custom shop strat, it's tangible and makes sense to the non-musician so I did those and stayed put. And a cheap drumset with a few good Zildjians were OK, too. For recording, I went over to friends who had the good gear.
But when one has to buy a new $2,000-$4,000 dollar keyboard every three years because the keyboard industry builds in obsolescence the way Apple and Dell do, it's a harder sell. Not too many people understand a whole box of multi-thousand dollar Neuman mics, or racks and racks of rackmount gear, but my friends who did put in the usually minimal $30,000 dollar studio investment got the product they wanted, a suitable recording.
When I first started, the gear was all analog and the room was very key, from the floors to the ceilings to specially made non-parallel drywall and of course, a sound booth behind very thick glass. This was considered the real non hobbyist recording room and the cost, way back then, was about $100,000 grand, all before the equipment.
Home studio engineers don't know how easy they have it these days, with digital and all. People could record with their console in the same room as the players and not worry about walls, baffling, or flooring nearly as much. I think one can spend just $50,000 dollars and have enough to make jingles, commercials, and large label subsidiary indie recordings for the billboard charts. Heck, it's worth it considering being self employed by let's say owning a bicycle shop, watch store, or small diner will set you back five times more than that and potentially pay off less in the long run.
Even if you have a service job from your room as a CPA or attorney, the costs of education, even at a state funded school, will still cost way more than a studio.
What's great is that a lot of work, some money but not a lot by comparison to above jobs, and a lot of advertising can make a musician stay with music their whole lives and pay the bills. Along with teaching, either privately or at a school, recording others can supplement live playing and weddings and beat back the need to enter the rat race of office or corporate work, hard manual labor, a restaurant job, or any typical soul draining 9-5.
I would rather make less than $20,000 dollars a year doing anything in music vs. being a criminal prosecutor/public defender or traveling MBA salesman for $45,000 dollars a year and have a two hour commute and 10-16 hour days in the office and courthouse.