Seems I never posted an update here. I'm still using my 57"!
What worked for the 2018 i9 macbook pro that I have for work, is one of these adapters:
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I did have to install a special firmware update (from a windows machine). I think it may have been this one:
https://kb.cablematters.com/index.php?View=entry&EntryID=147&ajax=1
Once I installed that, it worked great. I get the full 7680x2160 at 60hz from my work macbook pro.
Unfortunately even with that firmware update, my m2 macbook air doesn't drive it any higher than 5140x1440 (iirc at 120hz though). But also I can't force it into clamshell mode.... which sucks.
I also found that using this monitor with my pc (7800x3d, 3080ti) works MUCH better with HDMI. My motherboard doesn't show the bios screen on displayport unless I set it at dp1.2, which i'd then have to switch back to dp1.4/2.0 when windows/linux boots to get full res. And that's hella annoying! With HDMI it just works perfectly.