Did I say anything about A3 owners being poor or making misguided financial judgements? You made a wild jump there. Aside from that, no poor person would spend 30K+ on a car. They've buy a used car that's old. I said it isn't a wise purchase when you take into account a loaded A3 vs. the competition. I reckon the M240i with packages offers better money for value over the S3, as an example, and I think the 228i/230i are better deals in the long run compared to the Audi. With the Audi, you need to get the Quattro, and get a few packages unless you do a straight order with minimal everything. In the long run, the sedan would provide better economy over the coupe in terms of transportation and comfort, but it isn't a sound choice. A well loaded A3 nears 50K and doesn't make sense on paper. The S3 when loaded up doesn't make much sense. Truthfully, it's a good looker compared to the A3 but to the competition it isn't that hot. Audi traditionally offer quite a lot as the other two German players but at a lower price point. The A3/S3 looks great on the outside, don't get me wrong, and they and many other Audis are a rareity in the sea of big body Mercs and BMWs here, but Audi isn't without their own set of problems when it comes to getting value for your money. Your money is your money, and I'm not sure why you feel that my viewpoint/opinion is the be all end all of cars. Your wife or you may enjoy small sporty cars, I do too, but I mainly purchase midsize and full size cars. Or in a future case, a 600 hp wagon.
And like AU said, a GTI or Golf are better choices over a base A3. I'd go further in saying that if you weren't keen on the S3, the Golf R is a fantastic substitute. Your dislike for quilted leather is interesting. In which case you must dislike all the other S line of cars. I'm not a fan of Audis. But if there's one thing to be said about them, is they really know how to come up with new engineering techniques and their pushing of tech and updates from their most expensive cars in the VAG group to the lowest denominator. And at sensible prices.
But like I said, it's your money. You choose how to spend it. It's simply not how I'd spend mine. On the wood vs other materials front, we've discussed this before. I'm older and old school. Carbon fiber, alcantara, aluminum or whatever reeks of cheapness to me. Aluminum is akin to the awful, downright ****** look car makers had in the 80s and most of the 90s with plastic trim painted with matte silver. The carbon fiber reeks of boy racer unless it's a car that deserves it. It also looks a bit tacky. Alcantara isn't fancy to me. It picks up dirt, oil and smell. It looks, feels and wears like the stuff I remember being in car interiors when I was younger. Long before it got phased out for cloth interiors that didn't look like they belonged in the Playboy Mansion.
People have differing opinions on cars and their interiors. Let's not make this into another Neiman Marcus debacle.