I fail to see your point. They spent over $6B on R&D in 2016. This doesn't count for factory upkeep, employee pay or expansion for their new models at the time and ones due to come out. It also doesn't include retooling. MBZ made an announcement last year that they were going to dedicate 14.5B Euros in green tech R&D alone over the next two years, not discounting their regular R&D budgets.
You can complain day and night, but at the end of the day, these are massive companies with plants across the world and thousands of employees.
https://www.marketwatch.com/investing/stock/bmw/financials?countrycode=de
A typical 5 series may sell for around 70K with options, but BMW makes a fraction of that car's price when everything is taken out.
http://www.bmwblog.com/2017/03/21/porsches-pockets-17000-car-bmw-5000/
At the end of the day, it's your money and how you wish to spend it. Similar to you, I don't see a point in buying a Tesla. The only thing their cars have going for them is speed in a straight line and being total EVs.
Android Auto is better than CarPlay anyway.