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Ah, indeed. The only one that really works at all in the Adirondacks of Northern and Central NY.
Being Asian-American, I have seen the arranged marriage thing from relatives in the country of my ancestors, but for better or for worse, the concept has caught on with alums of top of the line universities in the USA (Ivy League and a few others like Stanford and NYU) as well as among rich businesspeople or recipients of large estates/inheritances. Of course, most of the ads are for men looking for women in these dating and matchmaking services but not always.
It's funny how the dating services and ridiculously expensive dating and matchmaking services have moved into American society and has gained acceptance in almost all social circles. A rich friend of mine joined a dating service which, at the very least, promised at least one "date/meeting" per year and the $1400 "fee" pretty much established this was about upper middle class members of society meeting a potential mate of that class or higher. Other meetings had an extra fee of some sort. And this was when I first saw this thing with American citizens being hooked up with other American citizens, and totally different than the relatively low cost dating services that would find a "wife" from a poor background. When he went on his own, he met a woman who pretty much cleaned him out for quite a few bucks. It's probably a lot less likely for that to happen with a dating service which makes you know exactly who you are dating and not let emotions, fate, or falling in love get in the way.
If you want an Asian girlfriend, regardless of your race or financial background, you can go to your local college or university and find such a girlfriend. Do be careful of somebody who is only looking to get married and then have a legal right to live in America, Canada, (Europe, the west), but not necessarily in that order. My Chinese-American friend met somebody from his college's Asian club and then hooked up with a dating service and he found a wife (from either China or Taiwan...I can't recall) who probably never loved him, and did it for money (and the right to abuse her husband and treat him like a man servant).
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You want a globe? Pretty sure they can be had for pretty cheap at Walmart.
No...that's the view out his living room window! He's an astronaut!
Oh man, the story of my non-existent love life. I'm African-American, and the thing is, theres a group of asians who are dating the same race as me which I have tried to date; got shot down by each one. None of them talk to me anymore and I'm not too sure why, I guess there's something in me people don't like. My other group of asian "friends" (quote) only stay within their asian prayer group. I can't talk, or hang out with them outside of school. One that I really fell for I tried 5 freaking times to take out, not even on a date after the 3rd try, just to lunch, and still kept saying she was busy all weekend (I'm sorry, I've been a sophomore, theres no way you're given that much work on the 2nd week of school that you can't spare 2 hours for free food).If you want an Asian girlfriend, regardless of your race or financial background, you can go to your local college or university and find such a girlfriend. Do be careful of somebody who is only looking to get married and then have a legal right to live in America, Canada, (Europe, the west), but not necessarily in that order. My Chinese-American friend met somebody from his college's Asian club and then hooked up with a dating service and he found a wife (from either China or Taiwan...I can't recall) who probably never loved him, and did it for money (and the right to abuse her husband and treat him like a man servant).
In the end, it doesnt matter. I somewhat graduate in less than a week and I won't be seeing anyone here ever again. Not everyone is destined to be with someone and I'm damn sure not going on a dating site.
The dating sites are a business first and foremost and of my friends, one got the wrong one (while spending gosh knows what) and the other spent a ton of money and met nobody.
The dating game could be really hard at times but always keep your mind open. Are you talking about high school or college when you finish? Either way, you are still very young probably if I correctly assume you are in your late teens to early 20s, but anyway congrats on finishing school.
i have to say guys, dating sites are the final refuge of the hopeless.
1400 Dollars to get hooked up with someone, c'mon that is daylight robbery, I know it's not just a US thing because we have them in the UK and Europe.... but it is an act of desperation.
You do not have to get hitched, it is OK to be single, society that tells us we must be part of a couple to be considered normal is flawed.
I am single, I was married it failed, I met another girl we had a kid then we split up. I am not good in relationships but I am a good father and see my son 3 times or more a week.
Do I get lonely? Yes I do, will I pay somebody money to hook me up with someone? No I will not.
If and when I meet someone it will be because fate has deemed it so not a wad of cash.
Anyway sorry lets get back on track to pictures of cool **** we can't afford.
1400 Dollars to get hooked up with someone, c'mon that is daylight robbery, I know it's not just a US thing because we have them in the UK and Europe.... but it is an act of desperation.
You do not have to get hitched, it is OK to be single, society that tells us we must be part of a couple to be considered normal is flawed.
I am single, I was married it failed, I met another girl we had a kid then we split up. I am not good in relationships but I am a good father and see my son 3 times or more a week.
Do I get lonely? Yes I do, will I pay somebody money to hook me up with someone? No I will not.
If and when I meet someone it will be because fate has deemed it so not a wad of cash.
Anyway sorry lets get back on track to pictures of cool **** we can't afford.
^^^Perhaps, but if someone genuinely WANTS to be with someone, and it's not just societal pressure driving them towards this goal, then what's wrong with getting a (paid) push in the back in the right direction?
Dating services are about creating dating opportunities.......more opportunities than any real person can have naturally. It's not a sure thing. It's not prostitution or something. It's more like buying 10 lottery tickets instead of 1.
I haven't used one, but I see nothing wrong with it. Besides, once you're with someone you're happy with, it may be worth it.
Dating services are about creating dating opportunities.......more opportunities than any real person can have naturally. It's not a sure thing. It's not prostitution or something. It's more like buying 10 lottery tickets instead of 1.
I haven't used one, but I see nothing wrong with it. Besides, once you're with someone you're happy with, it may be worth it.
Pffft, I'd rather warn all the Asian girls from Asian countries of all the guys who are just looking for some sort of Asian girl to date (Asian girls from "Westernized countries" already know about it, so need no warning). People who like Asian girls seem more obsessed/"focused" than other people who have a physical/cultural preference.
For example, I like girls with "mousy" (light-ish) brown to dark/black hair, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't date a blonde if the right one came my way. It also doesn't mean I'd do anything to get "friendly" with a group of dark-haired people just to increase my chances of meeting girls with dark hair, or try to make friends only with Spanish guys (and girls) just to increase my chances of getting with girls. It weirds me out that guys obsessed with Asian girls are so obsessed with it, like they MUST date an Asian girl, and they absolutely will NOT be happy dating any other type of girl.
You can like whoever you want. I really don't care what your preferences are because everyone has sexual preferences. I have them, and you have them. All I'm saying is that people who happen to have a preference for Asians appear far more obsessed with this one aspect of a person's existence than people with other physical/cultural preferences, and I find this rather strong obsession to be weird.
It sounds like you're trying too hard. A lot of Asians are very clique-ey (I honestly don't know how to type that word, if it is one) and you can forget about becoming a part of some circles. Meet people naturally, don't force yourself upon them, and you'll eventually meet someone who makes you far happier than had you pursued them in such a direct, uncomfortable manner.
By the way, I know you're into Koreans. I used to be too. Despite being Chinese, most of my relationships have been with Korean girls. One of them was genuinely a sweet, positive relationship. But a few girls definitely lived up to the stereotype: prissy, stuck up, little substance. They have been taught their entire life to value money, success, superficiality and prestige. In the end, that's all they cared about, and none of those relationships lasted more than a couple of months.
So don't get too worked up about it. You should really be more concerned with what type of person you're looking for, not where they're from or what their cultural ties are. I even dated a Bengali girl once, and I didn't mean at all to meet or get to know her.
You forgot about their epic tantrums/hissy fits and jealousy spats
Oh how I've tried to find a nice Korean girl to take home to mom but, 'round these parts, there are just the superficial ones decked out in Gucci/Prada/Louis Vuitton hand bags and those stupid looking bug eye sunglasses. Don't even get me started on their driving habits either. The Beltway is a far more dangerous place when they're on the road 
My first thought with these pictures was...
why can't you find the m10s?
You should look into vietnamese girls. Most are friendly, open and confident...and know how to take care of their men while retaining pride and strength...haha but I am biased.
Myself and many people I know have had great success using dating sites. Actually, the only friends of ours that we know that have been divorced didn't meet on a dating site.
Maybe if you tried a dating site, you would have (had) better luck?
I met my wife on a dating site, and neither of us were hopeless. We were/are both very busy professionals, which meant that the only places we interacted with people was at work, at the gym, or out when we were with friends on the weekend. We both just used it as another means of meeting people we never would have met via our friends or the places we went at the time. It's just another option that can be used, it's not a sign of desperation.
We've been married over 6 years now, have an amazing son, and we're best friends. I never would have met her without that site. Many of our friends also met through dating sites, and they are all still happily married.
And $1,400? Where are you getting that number from? I'm pretty sure it costs around $30 a month or so these days.
Krafty, there's no shame in using a dating site. Take it from me, you might find someone amazing.
What's wrong with dating sites? it's 2011 people. It's like saying computer forums are for geeks who doesn't work and hang out in front of their computer 24/7. There are plenty of dating sites that are free or cost very little.
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I wouldn't worry too much about not being able to find a girlfriend. There are lots of single people out there.
If you think you have a very sad love life, I doubt that it can be any worse than mine. I'm a 30 something year old single guy & never once in my life did I have a girlfriend!
I can assure you that it is definitely not lack of effort in trying though. In fact, I couldn't even get a single date no matter how hard I tried! You may think that I'm real pathetic (that's what I think) & that's fine. Oddly enough, I have a few really close female friends but for some reason, I'm just good enough to be a very good friend but I'm not good enough to be a boyfriend &/or husband to any of them or other girls. Although I hate to admit it, I guess I'm just not appealing & attractive enough for any girl to like me. Or maybe I just suck super big time! Not having &/or being able to find a girlfriend really bug the heck out of me when I was younger.
However, I've already gotten used to it & have "move on" with my life after coming to the realization that maybe I'm fated to be single my entire life. Funny enough, I've just told my mom the other day that the way things are going for me, I'm definitely not getting married in this life & that she shouldn't place any hope on me regarding marriage & starting my own family. Hey, we should always look on the bright side. Being single is the best!
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My friend's family started a huge insurance company, I am sure one we have all heard about, a real blue blood type. Those $1,400 dollar clubs are not in my budget nor have they ever been, but whether it's $30 dollars or $1,400 dollars, the dating clubs are not my type of thing. That's just my personal preference.
That being said, some people here have made some great arguments for dating clubs and websites. Hey, if it works, then all the more power. It takes all types to make the world go around. If I were convinced dating clubs and websites could gain "acceptance" in the United States, I would pull any money I had saved up, tell anybody I know who are serious investors, and start a freakin' business.
My friend's family started a huge insurance company, I am sure one we have all heard about, a real blue blood type. Those $1,400 dollar clubs are not in my budget nor have they ever been, but whether it's $30 dollars or $1,400 dollars, the dating clubs are not my type of thing. That's just my personal preference.
That being said, some people here have made some great arguments for dating clubs and websites. Hey, if it works, then all the more power. It takes all types to make the world go around. If I were convinced dating clubs and websites could gain "acceptance" in the United States, I would pull any money I had saved up, tell anybody I know who are serious investors, and start a freakin' business.
What year are you posting from?
Dating websites are very accepted among people in their 20's and 30's. Hell, I even know people in their 40's, 50's, and 60's who have divorced and subsequently met their new significant other on a dating site.
I also don't understand your reference to your friend's family's insurance company.