Things You Want But Don't Have

[ComputersaysNo]

What's wrong with dating sites? it's 2011 people. It's like saying computer forums are for geeks who doesn't work and hang out in front of their computer 24/7. There are plenty of dating sites that are free or cost very little.

So true. Upcoming saturday i am going to meet the love of my life. Or not. If not, the next in the que will be. Or not. Sometimes the weirdest **** happens, girls that break your back the same night, some girls are running down the street in 5 minutes after you met them, some you see for a few weeks, some even longer. It's all fun and everybody has the same state of mind: A modern way of meeting the prince/princess of your life, skipping the hassle that's normally involved when meeting new people. Don't forget you are not forced to date the ones that are matched, you can actually choose

 

[Krafty]

LOL AW MAN.

Well, apologies to people for making this thread take a right turn.

The dating game could be really hard at times but always keep your mind open. Are you talking about high school or college when you finish? Either way, you are still very young probably if I correctly assume you are in your late teens to early 20s, but anyway congrats on finishing school.

College.

I'm not too caught up in dating, which is why all throughout my senior year I've only made one attempt with the girl I mentioned. We still talk, and I help her with her work, and thats about it. I haven't dared to try to take it a step further cause I know she'll just run away. So better friends than not friends at all is how I look at it.

You can like whoever you want. I really don't care what your preferences are because everyone has sexual preferences. I have them, and you have them. All I'm saying is that people who happen to have a preference for Asians appear far more obsessed with this one aspect of a person's existence than people with other physical/cultural preferences, and I find this rather strong obsession to be weird.

Well, I've never had sex so I wouldn't think its a "sexual" preference. I've never attempted that kind of move on a girl before simply cause I haven't thought about it. Hell, I wouldn't even know what to do, so I just leave it alone.

I don't mind other races, I just have a preference.

It sounds like you're trying too hard. A lot of Asians are very clique-ey (I honestly don't know how to type that word, if it is one) and you can forget about becoming a part of some circles. Meet people naturally, don't force yourself upon them, and you'll eventually meet someone who makes you far happier than had you pursued them in such a direct, uncomfortable manner.

By the way, I know you're into Koreans. I used to be too. Despite being Chinese, most of my relationships have been with Korean girls. One of them was genuinely a sweet, positive relationship. But a few girls definitely lived up to the stereotype: prissy, stuck up, little substance. They have been taught their entire life to value money, success, superficiality and prestige. In the end, that's all they cared about, and none of those relationships lasted more than a couple of months.

So don't get too worked up about it. You should really be more concerned with what type of person you're looking for, not where they're from or what their cultural ties are. I even dated a Bengali girl once, and I didn't mean at all to meet or get to know her.

Yeah, I'm fine. I've been single all my life and I'm still alive so no real complaints. A significant other would be nice so perhaps I don't sit in my room all day but I've been living without and theres people who have lived longer without.

Not everyone is destined to have someone and I can live with that, but no harm in trying every now and then.

My first thought with these pictures was...

why can't you find the m10s?


You should look into vietnamese girls. Most are friendly, open and confident...and know how to take care of their men while retaining pride and strength...haha but I am biased.

Heh, find me a place thats selling them. AudioInsider claims to have them in stock by Spring but it's almost summer. Why a company showcases speakers they don't plan to sell is beyond me.

And I don't mind Viet, but whats weird is all my Taiwanese friends are 25+. We've hung out multiple times, and ate out, but its just weird cause they don't even look 25. One was married when we first met (we've been friends for about 3 years).

Krafty, there's no shame in using a dating site. Take it from me, you might find someone amazing.

I don't shun people who do, but as for now, I'm not that desperate. I sound desperate because its just a show, it keeps people smiling without going too far with the jokes, but deep down I don't hound all the asians at my college. Trust me, I wouldn't interact with them if I was as creepy as I sound on here.

I wouldn't worry too much about not being able to find a girlfriend. There are lots of single people out there.

If you think you have a very sad love life, I doubt that it can be any worse than mine. I'm a 30 something year old single guy & never once in my life did I have a girlfriend! I can assure you that it is definitely not lack of effort in trying though. In fact, I couldn't even get a single date no matter how hard I tried! You may think that I'm real pathetic (that's what I think) & that's fine. Oddly enough, I have a few really close female friends but for some reason, I'm just good enough to be a very good friend but I'm not good enough to be a boyfriend &/or husband to any of them or other girls. Although I hate to admit it, I guess I'm just not appealing & attractive enough for any girl to like me. Or maybe I just suck super big time!

Not having &/or being able to find a girlfriend really bug the heck out of me when I was younger. However, I've already gotten used to it & have "move on" with my life after coming to the realization that maybe I'm fated to be single my entire life. Funny enough, I've just told my mom the other day that the way things are going for me, I'm definitely not getting married in this life & that she shouldn't place any hope on me regarding marriage & starting my own family.

Hey, we should always look on the bright side. Being single is the best!

It's not just asians, but I don't know how to approach women in general. My first date was okay, but now shes dating someone else (a few weeks later afterwards) and now that will always be bound to the memory of my first date until I am mature enough to forget (or if they release that medicine that can erase memories).

I'm a virgin whose never dated, and I don't find shame in that, but I don't think I can convince myself that I'm actually ready for a relationship, so perhaps, I shouldn't even be trying. There's more important things to life than dating, and seeing how the real world treated my cousins who went in head first, dating is the last thing to worry about that this point.

 

[ButtUglyJeff]

I bet most of you won't even know what this is...

I'll most likely never afford...

 

[Surely]

I don't shun people who do, but as for now, I'm not that desperate. I sound desperate because its just a show, it keeps people smiling without going too far with the jokes, but deep down I don't hound all the asians at my college. Trust me, I wouldn't interact with them if I was as creepy as I sound on here.

But see, I wasn't desperate either. Neither was my wife. To me, it was just another way to meet women. Another option on top of meeting them through friends, or at a bar or the gym or a coffee shop. My wife and I had totally different friends and we lived in different parts of the city. We never would have met otherwise.

The great thing about it is that if you have trouble asking women out, it makes it a lot easier because you can do it PM styles. Once you're on the date, you're both there for the same reason (well, usually). If you guys hit it off, awesome, if not, you finish your drink/coffee, say "nice meeting you", and you keep searching. I'm not going to say that every date was great- I went on some bad ones too- but eventually it worked out.

Also, I didn't really think you were as creepy as you make yourself out to be here....I always took your creepy for asian thing as tongue in cheek or a joke (hey, I've got a thing for asian women too, so I hear ya). You seem like a good dude, so I would guess that things will work out for you. But to dismiss online dating as a thing for desperate people is a a bit of a mistake.......how can I put this in your food-choices terms.......it would be like going to Wendy's and ignoring Taco Bell, even though it's right down the block.

 

[zMacintoshz]

Canon 60D

Rode Videomic

Leica M9

6-Core Mac Pro

 

[Internal Fury]

 

[63dot]

I'll most likely never afford...

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I know what that is, $5,600 dollar Ampeg Heritage 30 I think or something in that upper range?!?, even though I am not sure I have ever seen one.

I have seen similar type setups with Trace Elliot and SWR stacks and if what you posted is what I think it is, it's expensive like a Quad Mac Pro, 6 gigs of RAM, and 4 hard drives with dual monitors.

That is one big bottomed girl. It's also the shape of that bottom, if it's the 30 watt model, which makes it more desirable than most modern 300 watt transistor bass amps, and ten times the oomph per watt anyway with those original tube bass amps which are only seen these days in re-issues. I could post a pic of the legendary Vox AC-30, but then I would have to sell my Macs to ever get one.

http://www.sweetwater.com/images/closeup/xl/1600-AC30HW2_AC15HW1_Group.jpg

That's THE 30 watts many guitarists would probably take over many a modern 100 watt guitar amp.

 

[GoKyu]

Gonna try to get this on my next paycheck...

 

[chrismacguy]

A 12" PowerBook G5... - I would add a picture, but I don't think there are any outside of Apples super-secret labs.

 

[jAguero16]

I want this so badly.

 

[Krafty]

But see, I wasn't desperate either. Neither was my wife. To me, it was just another way to meet women. Another option on top of meeting them through friends, or at a bar or the gym or a coffee shop. My wife and I had totally different friends and we lived in different parts of the city. We never would have met otherwise.

The great thing about it is that if you have trouble asking women out, it makes it a lot easier because you can do it PM styles. Once you're on the date, you're both there for the same reason (well, usually). If you guys hit it off, awesome, if not, you finish your drink/coffee, say "nice meeting you", and you keep searching. I'm not going to say that every date was great- I went on some bad ones too- but eventually it worked out.

Also, I didn't really think you were as creepy as you make yourself out to be here....I always took your creepy for asian thing as tongue in cheek or a joke (hey, I've got a thing for asian women too, so I hear ya). You seem like a good dude, so I would guess that things will work out for you. But to dismiss online dating as a thing for desperate people is a a bit of a mistake.......how can I put this in your food-choices terms.......it would be like going to Wendy's and ignoring Taco Bell, even though it's right down the block.

Well, the food choice is because of my emotions. As feminine as that sounds, yes, I do eat my emotions and I'm not afraid to admit it (I don't admit a lot of my problems, this is what, problem #3?). A lot of my friends are begging me to go on a "fast food" diet and so far, I'm 2 days clean.

Like I said, thats just for me, as I'm in college so I'm still young, but since you're a lot older you have time for online dating, I honestly don't. Hell, I don't even know if I'm going to have a job or be behind a pawn shop shooting up heroin in a few months.

And yeah, its a joke, usually when flirting with my friends they like to pull the "see, I know you're lying cause I'm not asian" line. But a majority of my asian friends are in a relationship, so I'm happy if they're happy. Either way, I'll be okay. They say I'm missing out in life, but the only thing that is missing in my life is a Nissan 350z (which a korean friend of mines bought at the beginning of the year and shes ****ing 20, a year younger than me).

I don't tend to hang out with the rich ones, but they are pretty wealthy, one even has a boyfriend who bought her a 27" iMac (no ****ing joke) and owns a B&O Beosound 8 at his job (which is like what, another $1,000?). So they're rich, but don't too much flaunt it, and they're cool to hang with and I talk to them regularly.

 

[Krovem]

Rode Mic, Infiniti G35, MBA 13", iMac 27"

 

[Surely]

Like I said, thats just for me, as I'm in college so I'm still young, but since you're a lot older you have time for online dating, I honestly don't. Hell, I don't even know if I'm going to have a job or be behind a pawn shop shooting up heroin in a few months.

Just FYI, I started using online dating when I was still in school, near the end of my studies.

And I'm not "a lot" older!

And just to stay on topic, I'd love to get an 11" MBA. I can afford it, but I just have no real need for another computer.

 

[cleanup]

Like I said, thats just for me, as I'm in college so I'm still young, but since you're a lot older you have time for online dating, I honestly don't.

I have never tried online dating, but it seems to me as probably one of the least time-consuming ways to meet someone.

So what else is stopping you? I'm going to sound harsh here, but stop making excuses for yourself. You started by saying you wanted a girlfriend (an Asian one, but this is beside the point), then as soon as it turned into a discussion, you claimed that you were fine with being single. If you want something, pony up and get it. No other advice anyone will give you can help unless you have the initiative to at least try.

Anyways, still waiting on acceptance from UWO Dental. So I suppose what I want but is many many years off is a degree in oral & maxillofacial surgery. Reach for the top.

And just to stay on topic, I'd love to get an 11" MBA. I can afford it, but I just have no real need for another computer.

You could replace your current laptop with an Air. I certainly use mine more than I ever did my MBP!

 

[Surely]

I have never tried online dating, but it seems to me as probably one of the least time-consuming ways to meet someone.

It is. It's even less time consuming as MR.

So what else is stopping you? I'm going to sound harsh here, but stop making excuses for yourself. You started by saying you wanted a girlfriend (an Asian one, but this is beside the point), then as soon as it turned into a discussion, you claimed that you were fine with being single. If you want something, pony up and get it. No other advice anyone will give you can help unless you have the initiative to at least try.

Harsh, but yeah, good advice.

Anyways, still waiting on acceptance from UWO Dental. So I suppose what I want but is many many years off is a degree in oral & maxillofacial surgery. Reach for the top.

Go Mustangs. I loved going to school there.......it went by way too fast.

You could replace your current laptop with an Air. I certainly use mine more than I ever did my MBP!

Yeah, I guess I could. I have it sitting vertically in a stand hooked up to a 24" external monitor, and I just recently installed a 500GB 7200rpm HDD. If I got the Air to replace my MBP, it would mean I'd have go through the hassle of selling the MBP (as I said, I can afford the Air, but just can't justify having both). I may do it, but I'll wait and see if they announce new Airs this month.

Thanks for being a bad influence on me.

 

[nobunaga209]

I want this:

for when I'm riding my CBR.

 

[Krafty]

Just FYI, I started using online dating when I was still in school, near the end of my studies.

And I'm not "a lot" older!

And just to stay on topic, I'd love to get an 11" MBA. I can afford it, but I just have no real need for another computer.

I guess its because you seem more wise within this subject. I don't talk to too many people about it cause i get the occasional "its life, sucks, just keep trying." So I just don't bore people with it.

You started by saying you wanted a girlfriend (an Asian one, but this is beside the point),

Meh, for the sake of the thread. I didn't expect it to turn into a discussion which is why I was more honest later on.

Want, yes. Need, not so much.

 

[63dot]

Meh, for the sake of the thread. I didn't expect it to turn into a discussion which is why I was more honest later on.

Want, yes. Need, not so much.

What you posted so far is very interesting. You should start a new thread in the community section. I think the issue of dating sites can bring up strong reactions one way or the other, and at the very least some people with interesting first hand accounts of this quite popular phenomenon.

 

[Krafty]

What you posted so far is very interesting. You should start a new thread in the community section. I think the issue of dating sites can bring up strong reactions one way or the other, and at the very least some people with interesting first hand accounts of this quite popular phenomenon.

Sounds good.

https://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?p=12667134#post12667134

 

[spencers]

Agreed, or Hoosier A6s....

Yeah, If I went the Hoosier route, I'd want a set of these.
D-Force LTW5, FINALLY IN 17x8"!!!! Weighing in at 15.7lbs
http://store.bimmerworld.com/d-force-ltw5---3-series-e364690-p894.aspx

 

[rezenclowd3]

^^ Ooooooooooh ya. Cheap too which is a great bonus (for the e30 anyway...) I've been eyeing those as well as they come in e30 fitment as well at 13lbs....but for a 15x7. The 5 spoke design will always look good! I did just buy some diff rebuild stuff for my "new" 3.25lsd, unfortunatly I secured another set of ASA JS1 wheels in pretty decent condition with new tires for $300, so after unmounting the rubber, I'll secure some used slicks from the Miata guys. Still, I need to consider the lighter D-forces. I thought my trunk could hold at least 3 wheels/tires...nope. Only 2, and that's with 1 in the spare slot....ugh, 2 in the back seat....Definitely need to trailer my car to HDPEs....

 

[rezenclowd3]

Actually ended up just buying a set of D-forces...woot!

 

[MinistryofHens]

Just had to join in on the fun.

One of these

One of these

And Misa

 

[kppolich]

 

[puckhead193]

want an Infiniti FX50S