On the one hand, I see many people young and old using these platforms for good, but I believe if there’s an issue it’s that younger people in particular don’t understand what’s good for them in the long term.
To be clear, if someone had told me in the early-Nineties when I was young that I could own a device with all the capabilities that we know of today, I would have snatched at it like anyone else. A Game Boy was about the most advanced potable ‘toy’ one could own, but you’d be lucky to get 2 hours from the batteries, the games soon became repetitive, and there was no wider way to network on it. These inherent limitations meant the device was good purely for short bursts of fun.
But today, children are given monumenrally more advanced devices by adults with little or no regard for their welfare other than “We don’t want them to feel left out” in the company of their friends. So they’re shifting accountability and the child becomes responsible for how they manage their own behaviour on the device, despite not having emotional maturity or deep knowledge of how the broader world operates. Google search may as well be Pandora’s box.
What I see today with social media - and this is the saddening thing - is children using it to document lives that aren’t real. It’s this detachment from reality is worrying, because many of the ways that young people grow to become healthy adults is by taking an interest in the world right around them rather than the one that is fabricated on their phone. Social media in its worst form represents a ‘me me me’ culture where balanced discussions and criticism cannot take place, where egos are constructed, and where the darker side of peoples characters negatively impacts others.
TLDR: Responsibility! Parents —
not government! Individual — not societal. The problem's source is at the child's home.
You are correct about the shifting of responsibility here. It should be the
parents who are held responsible not only for their child's actions but their safety
and education regarding the use of computers and social media, as well.
The attempt by government to 'protect' children against the perceived harms of social media WILL fail. Why? Because of a complete lack of parental concern. Making something illegal has rarely resulted in appreciable deterrence.
I remember when I was a child that other children would find access to all kinds of inappropriate for their age materials (pornography and violent films). It was
more compelling to us because it was forbidden to us. That is basic human nature.
All of this is part of the much larger societal problem of parents checking-out and keeping a 'hands-free' management of their children. I'm not saying it's all or even most parents—but when you see the kind of misbehavior and violence in
schoolchildren that we see today—everything from fists to guns to knives and razor blades—how can we not acknowledge that
some parents are the problem as well? Not to mention basic civility or public behavior, which many children seem not to be taught.
I see parents (daily) with toddlers whom they allow to run down the sidewalk street - half an avenue-block ahead of them(!) and toward busy automotive and bicycle traffic. Said parents are generally looking at their phones as they walk unconcerned about their children's safety. And these are middle-upper-middle class parents who are probably otherwise very concerned about their children and said children's futures. But they have a glaring lack of awareness for their general safety. I think that online awareness may be another deficit. I don't know, as I don't know anyone with young children anymore.
But taking away the rights of people — young people — to interact online because of 'dangers' is histrionic and sidesteps the real problems: Bullying; online trolling, stalking, predatory behaviors by disgusting and/or socially maladapted people and/or other teens/children. For the children engaging in socially violent or aggressive behaviors, obviously, their 'guardians' (I won't call them 'parents' since that entails more effort than just the biological output) won't be keeping watch or even attempting to correct their behaviors.
Most children don't become bullies without first learning it at home.
Most won't become violent stalkers without serious emotional or physical abuse at home.
Sorry for the rant. It's just that this increasing call to CENSOR EVERYTHING seems to be spreading and I believe it is a danger to us all—even adults who have no real interest in social media and who do believe it is overall a net negative for society.