So here me out and tell me if I'm way off base...... This whole mess only started a few months after I met my fiancé and had never happened before then and the only true constant through all of this is him....
He is an avid YouTube fan and watches YouTube videos regularly... typically its all trucks, RC's, and boating...
my take on this mess is a combination of malware, adware, bugs, and my fiancé... And this is where I believe my delayed messages and emails go.. somehow I believe he is intercepting these and then releasing when he's done reviewing them. I believe this to be true because one. of the first things I had discovered with an apple tech on the phone was a hidden rule on my iCloud settings that had my emails forwarded to him iCloud address.. Of course he denied. now he knew he couldn't do that again so I had discovered some time later my communications forwarded to his MS OneDrive account.. He also has something in his google account called iOS AccountManager. He has a couple older android phones and this I believe is where the misconfigured Hostname and duplicate device on my gateway derive from.. My browser history will be scattered through his browser history as if he has logged into something and pulled my browser history... he will get. very uncomfortable when Im online doing research about this matter.. When my phone had been jailbroken in the very beginning I don't think he counted on me discovering such thing..
there are things on his browser history he claims are not him and is of the mindset "deny, deny, deny" He is an experienced Electrician, an avid RC Hobbyist, and has installed many low voltage systems in both commercial and residential customers..
I can't express the frustration of knowing and understanding something but being unable to prove without a doubt what's happening.. I have said time and time again that the odds of what he claims not to be him and yet it doent happen to my stuff... He is somewhat obsessed with these devices you can install in your vehicle so you can watch tv in your car...
I just bought him a Ram TRX 2023 and I just got myself a 2020 BMW X6 Competition during the holidays. I just want to prove its what I think it is Or get proof that its some 3rd party hack.. I can't for some reason update the software in my car, he has connected his truck to the home network. I had discovered a device with a SIM card on a previous car.
and see every time I thwart one way he manages to find another way in.. Ive had external drives wiped clean, and most of that is someone being nosey and not understanding when you see "do you want to format this to be compatible" or whatever that it will erase everything
There was only one response that seemed insensitive, borderline reprehensible. I think you haven't had a lot of supportive responses because you've provided so much information. It's hard to figure out where to begin or to figure out what parts of your analysis are even pertinent to the problems your having.
on this forum, I started out on Reddit and then Quora... and I get a lot of confirmation that something is definitely wrong but no way to make it stop... I am not panicking these days... I was a few years ago but things have calmed down quite a bit and only starts to ramp up every once in a while... And like Said I believe I know what the problem is but most people don't want to get involved in the scenario so Ive just started piece milling my findings rather than present the entire problem its been more effective to tackle it symptom by symptom....
It has been my biggest hurdle as like you mention its a combination of user, bug, and symptom.. Most days I can stand back and see the separation of these things... but I do admit when emotions play into it it becomes muddled to see through the background noise.
Like you Im exhausted.. next time my network or device is behaving in the way it has I will post back here and if you happen to come across my post maybe you can help me understand what I'm seeing and how to protect myself from it? anytime I do any lengthy investigation into this matter things magically behave normally..
thank you for spending the time you have and sticking through my barrage of questions..
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if you can direct me how to go about doing so and find someone that can be trusted I would oh
I would like nothing more than to hire a consultant to help me get this explained for once and for all...
I can see that my sentences are getting moved around and so its time to stop wasting your time and mine and sign off for now..